My mum has just been diagnosed with cancer and I don’t know what to do.

Hi JordanT1

welcome to the forum and sorry to hear that your mother has been diagnosed with oesophageal cancer. There is an oesophageal cancer forum that you can join and get support from others who have the same type of cancer as your Mum.  There is also a family and friends forum that you can join to get support from others going through the same thing as you.

Wishing your Mum the best of luck with whatever treatment her medical team decide to give her.

Best wishes to you and your Mum.

Daisy53

Hi.

Thanks for your well wishings.

How do I find that forum? 

Hello JordanT1, I’m sorry to hear about your Mum and how you are feeling right now, I noticed you had asked where the Oesophageal cancer forum is, I hope you can see that I’ve made the name a link for you to click on.

There is also a Family and friends - Discussion Forum, that you might find useful for supporting you and all the rush of feelings that you might be having.  Macmillan also have a support line 0808 808 0000 that you could call between 8am and 8pm to talk through what’s going on for you. They are there to listen or to point you in the direction of information you need. 

I am sorry that all I can do is offer some signposting and a virtual hug, I have a different type of cancer, but I do have 2 grown up daughters, and I hope you can find the support you need to help you and your Mum.

Thanks for your message.

I’m sorry to hear you have cancer and I hope your daughters are ok.

I’m now in both groups so thanks again. 

I have 3 children one of which is a daughter. I love them all so much. I would say as a mother, give her a cuddle regularly. Get the mcmillan nurses to apply for your benefits. They have a direct link to job centre plus. Have a regular spa day. This process is something everyone has to go through. The positive is you both have time to prepare & say everything others may not have the opportunity to do so.

Hi Jordan

i read your post and it touched me.  I’m so sorry to hear about your mum.   Losing a parent, I think is one of the hardest losses.  But you haven’t lost her yet!  Don’t waste time now worrying about how you will cope without her and cherish every moment you have together.  Show her, make her proud of the wonderful job she did in bringing you up.  Let her see how much she means to you and your daughter.  Plan little surprises, let your daughter draw her pictures, have a picnic in the front room, go through the family photo albums and talk about the wonderful times you have had together.  Embrace the love you all clearly feel for each other.  Spend every minute that you can with her, let her talk, let her cry, let her be strong.   This is about celebrating the wonderful life you have had together that is not over yet.   My dad died suddenly of a heart attack and I never got to say all the things I wanted to.  You have been given the gift of time, please see it as that and make it memorable.   Wishing you all much love.  Rachael xx

Hi Rachael.

Firstly, I’m sorry to hear about your dad, I remember 5 years ago getting a phonecall to say my dad had collapsed and had a heart attack which ironically saved his life.

While he was in hospital being treated for it they found a shadow on his lung and found out he had lung cancer too ! Due to this it was caught so early and it was completely cut out and he’s had no comeback from it. 

Thanks for your message about my mum. 

I wish you’d been able to do all the things with your dad you’ve told me to do with my mum. 

You seem like a lovely person, I hope you’re doing ok.

I’m sure you’re dad would be very proud of you for thinking about others when they are struggling.

Thank You.