I was with my dad when the dr told him that he has Mesothelioma and has months nor years to live. Although we were expecting to be told it was cancer it was a shock the way he came out with it!
My dad (80) is obviously devastated by the news as we all are. It’s been 3 months since we got the news. It’s very hard to motivate him he sits around staring at his lap or the wall or through the tv - he is showing all sign of depression but tells us he’s alright when we mention seeing the dr to see if they can help.
he doesn’t want to go out and I’m finding it really hard to see my dad like this and I don’t know what to do. I appreciate that he’s had the worst news and hes every right to feel self pity. We’ve spoke about making the most of what time we have together, I visit everyday and I know I couldn’t do more than I am but i still feel that I’m not helping him in a way that I need to.
if anyone has any advice on how they are dealing with this situation I’d really grateful
Hi
I'm sorry to read the devastating news that you and dad have recently had. It must have been a great shock to you both and it's natural that you want to know what you can do to help.
As you know, the online community is divided up into different support groups so I'm going to recommend that you join the supporting someone with incurable cancer group where you can discuss your emotions as well as practical issues around helping your dad.
To join just click on the link I've created and then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
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