Re stopping Chemotherapy

The end sessions of chemo suck - I was like you in 2008 - felt awful but you have to carry on - we are all behind you - I have just been diagnosed with lymphoma so I’m going to be in the shape as you soon - your friends understand more than you now - sending you a hug x

Thank you for your reply,

I’m, sorry to hear you have to go through it all again.

I wish you all the best with your treatment x

Hello Kits

So sorry to hear what you are going through. I felt I needed to respond. My husband had terminal bile duct cancer and was given 6 months and possibly up to 12 months with chemo. I didn't want him to have chemo because it destroyed my grand daughters body but I never told him I didn't want him to have it. It was his cancer, his body, his choice. I list him in September and for a while I was really angry because the chemo kept making him Ill and getting sepsis. So he had a lot of time in hospital and because of covid I wasn't allowed d to be with him. I did get him home for 4 weeks brfire he spent his last two weeks in hospice and I could have time with him. I was angry because the chemo kept is apart and made him more ill than the cancer and we knew it wasn't going to change his outcome. Even though I feel like that if I had to do it all again still wouldn't tell him what he should do, just as I would want everyone to respect my wishes if it was my body. So all I can say to you is, its your body, your choice nobody else's and other people should respect that 

Love and hugs to you. Xxxx

Thank you for your reply Chris, I am so sorry to hear you lost your husband not too long ago and I can understand your anger with regards to not being able to see him when he was in hospital because of Covid. It must have been awful. I am often so concerned about what to write on here as I don’t want to scare others but appreciate your honesty when you say how the chemo destroyed your granddaughters body and made your husband so ill. I can remember my mum saying to me when she was terminal that for her it was her quality of life and not the quantity that she wanted and I respected that. As you said a persons cancer is their own, I have felt so ill after my last cycle and chemotherapy will not be the end of this journey for me. I also have radiotherapy and drug therapy to come. I have two more cycles to go but have been so bad since my last cycle that I really do feel that I can’t continue and I hope those around me can respect that.

Thank you xxxx

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