In June 2019 my mum was diagnosed with Oesophagus cancer, she started with chemo and then had a major operation in December to cut away part of her oesophagus and re-join it to her stomach. The operation went really well and mums consultant was pretty certain that they removed all of the cancer.
Then Corona happened and because of this she didn't have a scan until October 2020, so all this time we have not been certain that she was cancer free. We received the results and the consultant confirmed that mums Oesophagus is clear but unfortunately they found cancer on her right ovary. She then had to have an MRI scan which we got the results for last Thursday, worse news its actually on both ovaries and they have found a shadow on her pelvis.
Mum is due a PET scan tomorrow to determine if the shadow is what we pray its not!.. if the cancer is "just" on the ovaries she will have to have a hysterectomy, but if its in other places too she will have to begin chemo again.
I'm struggling a lot more second time around, i feel like cancer is doing its best to try and take my mum away from me. Im trying to stay as strong as i can for her because i know she isn't coping well this time round, she's angry, she's sad and she's lost her positivity that she had first time round.
Life is so unfair!
Hi ,
sorry to hear about your mum. Cancer recurrence is often a real blow even more so for people who have been given an all clear, though of course in your mum's case adding covid to the mix does not help. You might like to look at If cancer comes back as there are some tips there.
It is often a struggle for the loved ones too - staying strong is much easier to say than do and it is important we remember to look after ourselves. I know I struggled in the early days but my wife and I now accept she is living with cancer. Christmas time is often hard seeing people celebrating and happy - though this year and covid, who knows what my happen. Do post here if you want but you would also be welcome to look at Carers only forum where we discuss the impact it can have watching someone and being out of control.
Hope the PET scan went ok - Janice does not mind them too much and she has had quite a few.
<<hugs>>
Steve
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