Hi All,
Im new to this and feel awfully alone but hopefully there’s others out there like me (not that I wish this on anyone else, but you know what I mean!) who might be able to share some wisdom or experiences.
I’m 42 and was diagnosed in May with stage 3B breast cancer. I had a 7cm tumour deep in my right breast, and have since had a mastectomy and lymph node clearance (18 removed, 10 affected). I had/have large boobs so there was hardly a lump - just a slightly hard area appeared.
I have just had my second round of chemo - I have 8 cycles. The first was dreadful as I ended up with an infection and a week in hospital with neutropenic sepsis, but this round seems to be going ok so far - I have a great oncologist who changed the plan following the issues last time.
I’m struggling to keep going as ‘normal’ - I’m usually fiercely independent and am raising an equally independent 13 year old girl alone. It’s just the two of us at home and I’m trying to keep her busy with her friends, family support where I can and so on.
Has anyone else been in the same situation? Was there anything that you found helped your children to get through it? She’s struggling seeing me with no hair and me not being able to do much with her, and as keeping her as settled as possible is my priority, I was wondering if anyone has any experiences or tips they could share to help?
Thank you so much in advance xx
Hi and a very warm welcome to the online community
I'm sorry to hear that you've recently been diagnosed with breast cancer.
Lots of people comment that they feel very alone with their diagnosis so it's great that you've reached out to this community. I'm sorry that no one from this group has come forward to talk to you yet so it may be an idea to also join and post in the main Breast cancer forum group as it's a lot 'busier' than this one.
If you'd like to join just click on the link I've created and then choose 'click to join' on the page that opens. You could then copy and paste your post from here to save you typing it out again.
It must be a difficult time for your daughter and you might find this information from Macmillan useful for you both. It includes a link to Riprap, which is a website for teenagers who have a parent with cancer.
When you have a minute, it would be really useful if you could pop something about your journey so far into your profile as it really helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar diagnosis. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
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