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Can any1 help me please

MadHouse25
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Morning all x Kissing heart

Hope every1 and fam aswell as can be Disappointed

Every1 you all are fighters n sending much love n prays yours way x Heart️ 

N all the professionals helping ones suffering and there loved ones along there journey Heartbeat you all deserve a medal Medal Heartbeat

I'm looking for some advice if possible x

From professionals and or ones suffering or any fam members Thinking Kissing heartThinking ect ect x

Not asking any1 for or going take there word for it x 

I know every person n cancer different not one case the same x 

Just looking for help from someone with experience Cry dealing with personaly or being with someone who is or one the hero's help these along way x

CAN ANY1 PLEASE PLZ PLZ PLZ PLZ PLZ PLZ HELP ME Pray Sob Tired face 

CAN ANY1 PLZ Pray GIVE ME A IDEA IN ANY WAY OF WHAT THEY THINK THE OUTCOME IS FOR MY PARTNERS RESULTS PrayTired faceCrySob PLZ Pray Cry  N LIKE SAID NT WANTING OR LOOKING FOR DIAGNOSIS N KNOW HAVE WAIT FOR RESULTS BUT LOOKING FOR EXPERIENCE SEEN AND OR HAD OR GOING THREW ECT ECT Pray

HERE GOES 

My partner born 69 ( sorry shit with ages just know years lol Laughing)

He has been suffering from really sore toung for 3/ 4 months Cry on n off Cry 

Went docs as wouldn't go n hurt to eat or drink Confused 

They said was thrush or diabetes n gave pain killers antibiotics n antinflamatories n fungal treatment for thrush Cry

Went docs Tuesday or Wednesday last week as still not better only worse and ear ache getting worse Cry                                  can only eat ice cream or ypuguts or that type food Cry  Druels all time as cant contain serliver Cryeffecting speech Cry and i loooticed its rotting away at one side Cry refred him hospital went Monday the doc had appointment with looked at tounge then said need biopsy / pictures / xray / and mri scan done and tried get him cancelled spots for that day but dint havCryany he then got another doc / specialist/ surgeon Co.e in and look and he basically sId it was tounge cancer as as fella wht he things is and ans fella said cancer n doc ect just hummed n lowered head Cry Cry fella said is it curable and doc said we Need these tests 1st and go from there Cry Went hospital Monday this week as said made biopsy appointment for this Thursday 1st May n sent for pics n xrays after left doc room / n made a biopsy appointment for this Thursday the 1st May/ goCryphone call from hospital today wanting book him in for mri scan this Friday 2nd May Cry / n got a text with another appointment for same place Went on Monday for the 16th May n not sure what that is as not spoke any1 about this one Cry  I'm just so worried and not sure what to expect. Fella has bad bipolar aswell so really need a heads up wht expect from results just with symptoms n how fast booking appointments Flushed 

His symptoms are 

Tounge is really sore and inflamed              He has a lump under Tounge                          can't eat solid food. So not eating                    hurts to drink / can't sleep for pain / pain killers don't help for long wear of after hr max Cry                                                                  n in last 4 to 6 weeks has gotten worse n turned into.                                                  drewls all time as can't swallow or contain surliver / or talks Cry having wear a covid face mask as that bad n people take piss Cry His tounge on one side is rotting away and kinda like ones see on back cig packets Cry  been having constant bag inner ear pain   

Plz can some1 give me any idea on wht diagnosis/ stage / type ect can expect 

  • Hi MadHouse25,

     

    Thank you for getting in touch with us and welcome to our online community.  My name is Adrienne and I’m one of the Cancer Information Nurse Specialists at Macmillan. 

     

    I’m sorry to hear about the symptoms your partner has been experiencing and completely understandable that you both just want to know what’s going on and whether or not this could be cancer.  Unfortunately, no one can give you an idea of what might be wrong, other than the consultant in charge of his care.  Even then, they need to do these tests and investigations to find out exactly what is going on.

     

    You mentioned the speed in which the appointments are coming through and this along with worsening symptoms, is making you worried.  When cancer is suspected, as one of the potential things that could be wrong, there is always an urgency to get tests done, to either diagnose quickly or rule it out.  This is called the Faster Diagnosis Standard (FDS) in England.  Scotland, Ireland and Wales have their own pathways but they are similar.  You can read more about that here.  These pathways are in place so that cancer can be ruled out or diagnosed within a certain time.  So the time from a referral being received by the hospital to finding out whether or not there is cancer present should be no more than 28 days.  Therefore all scans, biopsies etc should be done quickly within this time. 

     

    I really do understand how difficult this waiting period is and can feel like things are going fast but time is standing still at the same time.  You both just want answers.  But until these investigations are done, no-one can say exactly what is going on.  It’s not unusual to feel anxious and like you both have no control over what is going to happen.  Some people find it helps to continue with their daily activities whilst others feel they can’t concentrate on anything else.  There is no right or wrong way to deal with these feelings.  As your partner has bipolar disorder, it may be helpful for him to reach out to his mental health team (if he has one) to discuss how they can give some extra support during this time.  He can also talk to his GP about support going forward. 

     

    It's important that you look after yourself too MadHouse25.  Please know that you can give us a call on the support line to talk things through.  It’s completely confidential and although we don’t have access to NHS records, we can talk to you in general terms about what is going on.  It also gives you the opportunity

     

    I know this isn’t what you’d hoped for but I hope it helped, even just a little.

     

    Take care and best wishes,

     

    Adrienne

    Cancer Information Nurse Specialist 

    The Macmillan Support Line offers practical, clinical, financial and emotional support. You can call us free from landlines and from most mobile phone networks* on 0808 808 00 00, 7 days a week, 8am – 8pm.

     

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