Hello, I been diagnosed with HER2 and DCIS in the same breast. I've been informed I must have a mastectomy and have been recommended a bilateral TUG reconstruction with the secondary option of an implant reconstruction. The reconstruction surgeon has informed me that for the latter (which she advises against), she would also put an implant on the healthy side in order to reach some kind of symmetry. However, I am told the two implants would react differently to any changes in my body and will not look at all symmetrical. On the other had, my mastectomy surgeon advises against having the bilateral TUG procedure due to its complications and advises a straight forward mastectomy. Personally, I cannot face the bilateral TUG, or losing a breast and going flat on one (or even both) sides. I have been struggling with mental health, self-esteem and body confidence my whole life, the last 7 years have been particularly traumatic and in the last 2 years my whole life has fallen apart. I am newly single, feeling utterly unlovable and am going through this process alone with the awful voice inside saying, 'Nobody will want you after this'. I am not scared by the cancer itself, but by having to face life afterwards. I have requested a bilateral mastectomy with immediate reconstruction. My team won't agree to this, but I can't fathom facing life following the options I have been presented with. Please help!!!
