Hi
I have ER+ cancer in my left breast. I was diagnosed in November '23 after being told by my GP that I had a breast infection which she treated with antibiotics in September. I've had 8 cycles of chemo which finished on 13th May 24.
Getting surgery sorted had been problematic with delays (original surgeon going on holiday etc).
I was told at diagnosis that I would have a named Breast cancer nurse. She appeared once at diagnosis - I have not seen nor heard from her since. I rang twice with an issue in the early days but had no reply so resolved the issue myself. There has been no contact since.
A different BC nurse appeared at the first chemo meeting when I had to sign forms. There has been nothing since.
I asked one of the nurses in chemo how I could see a BC nurse as I knew surgery would come up at some point.
A BC nurse (in charge of BC nurses?) then got in contact with me. She suggested after discussion that it would be better for me to have surgery in another hospital in the trust that had female surgeons. I agreed as I wanted a female to do the work.
I eventually saw a surgeon for the first time on 2nd July 24, some 7 weeks after last chemo. This was a long time. I could not speak to the BC nurse (the one in charge of other BC nurses?) as she had gone on holiday and I had no contact numbers for anyone else.
The surgeon told me that a lumpectomy was recommended with radiotherapy after. Even though she would remove 17mm tumour with 5 mm margin, leaving me a cup size smaller , she does not do reconstruction.
So now if I agree to a lumpectomy as I am worried about the time delays and want the cancer gone soonest, I will have no nipple on my left breast as the tumour runs under my nipple and have different size breasts. I wear fitted dresses when working so will have to chuck out a lot of clothes that are part of my identity. It is not doing anything to help my self esteem which is very low.
I am devastated as information I have read online from valid cancer sites and what I was told at initial diagnosis have led me to believe that reconstruction would be done.
I am to meet with the surgeon again next week to tell her what I want to do. This will be 8 weeks after the end of chemo and then the surgery date will have to be set which means even more delays. The surgeon would not give me consent forms to sign at the meeting on the 2nd July as she could see I was trying to process the information she had given me.
Could you advise me please on the following;
How do I /Who do I speak to about reconstruction?
Is reconstruction done for a lumpectomy or do I have to live the rest of my life lopsided and without a nipple?
Who do I speak to about any concerns I have regarding treatment /side effects/ prostheses etc as it appears I have no named BC nurse as I was told at the start?
I feel alone in a deep sea.
Thank you for any advice you can give.