Pathology

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Hi There..I have posted on the bowel cancer thread quite a few times now about my hubby's bowel cancer and I have had the most marvellous responses of support and encouragement  but I just have this worm in my brain if you like that I am struggling to deal with..my hubby was diagnosed with Stage 3 bowel cancer in October..prior to his surgery staging was T3N1M0 due to a PET scan that was requested to clarify a few things..my hubby had a very successful resection with clear margins and we were in such a good place.. but after meeting with the oncogist my bubble of positivity burst as he was less upbeat than the surgeon and told us that in an actual fact 7 out of 22 nodes were affected.there were 2 cancer deposits in the fat which he said for the sake of staging he would view as two extra nodes so 9 in total..chemo now due to the high risk of recurrence was inevitable..this was unexpected but we were grateful that chemo was offered but when the oncogist sent us the letter with the findings..it also  mentioned EMVI and PNI positive..this was a huge blow for me as I know this is not good..the tumour was moderately differentiated..I just can't seem to get past the EMVI and PNI...i am trying to stay positive but keep feeling so low which I am trying to hide..it seems so definite that he will get a recurrence...how do I get past this dread..

  • Hi ellen93,

    I’m Keith one of the Cancer Information Nurses Specialist’s on the Macmillan Support Line.

     It’s good to hear you are finding the support helpful, from our online community.

    This sounds like a really difficult time for you all. I can only imagine what is going through your mind right now.

    With any cancer diagnosis or treatment, it can be so difficult to manage the worry caused. Everyone is so different, and they can be affected in so many ways by both.

    I’m sure your husbands’ team have done everything in their power to treat your husband’s cancer as aggressively as they can. Nothing is 100%. Being told the risks in relation to his EMVI and PNI has naturally made you more concerned. We just don’t know what is going to happen. You can only try to take things one day at a time. I know this won’t be easy. Try not to cross a bridge of worry till it’s in front of you. None of us really knows what tomorrow may bring.

    If the cancer does come back his treatment team will again do everything in their power to manage this. New treatments are being developed all the time and who knows what may be available.

    Everyone deals with this in so many different ways and some people find support from friends and family to be enough but sometime more help is need from other sources such as from our support line or online community or other healthcare professionals.

    When looking after your husband, you may feel like you're just doing your bit, but the help you provide is so important. We understand how this can sometimes affect you physically, emotionally, and financially. You're likely to need support too.

    It is important that you look after yourself.

     

     

    If you think it may help further to talk things through why not give us a call or contact us via webchat.

    Take care

    Keith

    ref KD/KS