My husband went through his diagnosis chemo and surgery. He did not want people to know which is fine. As the primary carer and my family is overseas and I found it the whole experience bordering traumatizing. Even afterwards that experience has left me feeling isolated.
I have asked in forums about ways of coping with the secrets, but there was no real school of thought dedicated online forums. I couldn't even find any papers or therapy sites with
Why is there no forum? There must be LOTS of people dealing with the burden of keeping the secret. Surely there are others that questions about when it is OK to tell some one, dealing with feelings of guilt, and many more.
The nature of a secret is it prevents people going through the same thing from finding each other. A forum where people sharing this very unique situation would be so helpful.
Are there any out there and why does Macmillan not have one?