Mum just been diagnosed

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My mum was diagnosed a few days ago with terminal liver cancer. I’m absolutely devastated. Her cancer is fast growing and she’s likely to be gone by next year. I’m only 26, it’s not fair that I’m going to lose my mum at such a young age. My mum was always my rock, and even though we’ve had a rocky relationship, my heart breaks at the thought of her no longer being here. She’s never going to see me grow up more or achieve more with my life. She’s never going to see my dogs again. I already have mental health issues, and now I’m struggling even more. I don’t know what to do, I don’t want to lose my mum Disappointed

  • cosmicsoleil, I am so sorry to hear about your mum's diagnosis and that you are struggling.

     

    It's great that you've turned to the Macmillan Online Community, and as well as asking questions and for support, you can find others to talk to here who may be able to understand what you're going through. 

     

    You mention that you have mental health issues already.  Do you have some support at all?  Anyone you can turn to at this difficult time?  If not it may be worth talking to your GP about additional support to help you cope.

     

    You can always talk to Macmillan Cancer Support either on the telephone support line on 0808 808 0000 or on online chat from 8am until 8pm every day.  

     

    It might be worth having the number for the Samaritans to hand, too - 116 123 - as they are there 24 hours a day when you need someone to talk to. 

     

    It sounds as though you may be feeling anticipatory grief, which is when you feel a sense of loss before someone dies.  There is a page on Cruse Bereavement Care here which may describe some of how you are feeling. It also gives you some ideas how to cope such as taking care of yourself and taking it a day at a time. 

     

    I hope you'll keep in touch with Macmillan so that we can help to support you during this difficult time, cosmicsoleil.  
    Yvonne, Information and Support Adviser

    Remember you can also speak with the Macmillan Support Line team of experts. Phone free on 0808 808 0000 (7 days a week, 8am-8pm) or by email.