A parent with cancer

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Hello. My mum has had ovarian cancer twice and she’s both a miracle and a fighter enough to been able to survive it. Both my great nan and my nan have passed away from the same illness. Although the treatment that is being given to my mum at the moment is working, as someone who has studied medical statistics at university, I can’t help but think about what I’m going to do when she’s not here because she statistically she shouldn’t be here right now. As I grow older these thoughts just seem to take up my mind even more to the point where I can’t sleep and I think about them on a daily basis. There’s so much that I want to say but it’s hard to put it into words in this little box. I think I’d just like to talk to other people in a similar position maybe, I don’t want to feel so isolated. 

  • Hi  , thanks for contacting us here at Macmillan, I’m so sorry to hear that you and your family have been through so much but it’s really good to hear that your mum’s treatment is going well at the moment.

    It is completely understandable that you think and worry about losing your mum, it’s human nature to have these thoughts but as you say it’s not easy to express what you need to say in a text box and often not something that you would want to talk to the person with the diagnosis about.   Have you considered giving our Support Line a call to have a talk with one of our advisors EllieD, we’re here to support you too and by talking to us we can explore what support may be beneficial for you?  Our Support Line number is 0808 808 0000 and we’re here every day from 8am to 8pm.

    I don’t know if you’ve ever considered joining a support group, for some people it’s really good to sit with a group of others who are in a similar situation to your own, you can find out if there are any groups near to you in the In Your Area section of our website so it’s maybe worth taking a look.

    I don’t know if you’ve had a chance to look at our Online Community but there’s a forum there for family and friends where you can chat with others and post any questions, take a look if you haven’t had a chance to yet, I’ve put a link directly to the forum for you.

    I hope this information is of some help to you EllieD, as I mentioned in the beginning if you ever need to chat or talk we are here for you, every day from 8am to 8pm please reach out to us for support.

    Vicky, Information and Support Adviser

    Remember you can also speak with the Macmillan Support Line team of experts. Phone free on 0808 808 0000 (7 days a week, 8am-8pm) or by email.