Blocking visitors to hospice

Hello Wilfreda

Thank you for getting in touch with Macmillan.  

I am so sorry to hear about your brother, this must be such a difficult time for you and indeed the whole family.  May I ask, how are you at the moment?  Sometimes at times such as this, emotions can become overwhelming; we are here to support you through this sad time.

I can appreciate that visiting as a family may become tiring for your brother, and it's a shame there is a "little friction" with his wife trying to shut you out.  Perhaps you have already discussed trying a "rota" for visiting so that your brother has the opportunity to see as many family members as he would like, and feels up to? 

I am wondering Wilfreda, have you had a chance yet to talk to the Hospice about their visitor's policy?  It might be an option to make an appointment with those responsible for visiting and take guidance from them.   It's possible, at this time, visiting may be Next of Kin only (the hospice will advise you) , but it might be possible that your brother has options and might like to express his feelings around visitors. 

Another option you might like to explore is Hospice UK  They are a national charity supporting patients and their families through end-of-life care.  The link will give you options on how to contact them.

Wilfreda, we are here to support you. We will look to talk things through and provide you with any guidance that we can. We have a freephone support line 0808 808 00 00 which is open from 8am – 8pm seven days a week, and an online webchat service which you can access here. You can also email us or continue to stay in touch with us on the community.

Please do stay in touch with us.