Recently diagnosed with malignant melanoma with possible spread to lymph nodes and awaiting urgent CT scan to check for metastatic spread.
It is just me and my daughter who is going to university in September so moving out. I separated from her father just before first COVID lockdown as he is an abusive alcoholic who we couldn’t bare being in lockdown with so it actually gave me the push and strength to get out. He does not contribute to anything and even after informing him of my diagnosis has not bothered to contact me or daughter. How am I going to support her through university with no income and being so unwell?
I am a self employed freelance worker (registered nurse but only teach nurses and healthcare staff now) so if I don’t work I don’t get paid. Due to numerous appointments and increasing fatigue and brain fog (not sure if this is due to the cancer or not) I have not worked since 22nd June. Have applied for ESA but taking ages and my critical illness cover with life insurance won’t pay out unless it is confirmed as spread to lymph nodes.
I am struggling to stay awake to work and with all the appointments and surgery in a few weeks I really have no idea how I am going to manage to pay mortgage and bills. I have nobody that can help me financially and have never claimed benefits before so I am completely confused by the whole thing.
How exactly am I meant to concentrate on fighting this cancer and any kind of recovery with so much stress regarding finances? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you
Becci