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Hi everyone, my mother inlaw had breast cancer 14 years ago. She fight against it and was given the all clear. 5 years ago me and my husband move from abroad that we can spend time with her. Since i got here she wasn't eating well. She went of certain foods and lost in total about 5 stone. I kept on taking her back to the doctors but didn't get any explenation for the drastic weight loss. In 2006 she end up in hospital and was diagnosed with bone cancer.  I couldn't believe it, i went for the last 4 years with her to all her treatment and appointments.

The last 3 weeks I picked up that she is with times a bit confused and that she see things that is not there (hallusinates). I mentioned it to her specialist  and they booked her mri scans for her brain and liver. Before she could go for the scans she had a seizure at the house and was admitted to hospital. They told us that the cancer spread to her brain and are now waiting for the results on her liver. I know that the path ahead is going to be difficult, she need care at her house now and somebody to control her medication. I am with her everyday, but I feel I neglecting my children that is in primary school. But when I am at the house i wonder if she allright and if anybody went and visit her at hospital. I am lost and don't know what to do... I need to help her but my kids need me to!

Please let me know if you were in a similiar situation and what did work for you. Thanks x

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    hi hun you must get in touch with the macmillan nurses go and have a chat with them because you just cant be everywhere at the same time and worrying while you arent at your mother in laws im sure they will be able to help and introduce some care for her there comes a time when you need to ask for help and im sure there is plenty available out there please do go to your nearest macmillan centre they are so helpful or ask at the hospital where they will put you in touch

    stay strong girl

    love and hugs jen xxxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Zoe,

    I agree whole heartedly with Jen. Have a chat with the Macmillan Nurses. They will be only to willing to help. All the best and good luck.Look after yourself.

    Take care and be safe Big Hugs Sarsfield.x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    hi zoe

    what a problem. i'm new to this but the mcmillan nurses will help all they can i'm sure. you can't do this alone.

    prayers are with you.

    take care

    tracey

    xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    You are so right you can't be in many places at one time. Please get advice and take all the help that is on offer. Your children are going to need you too and you and your husband are going need the love and strength of your family.

    Diane xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Thank you all for your advise and help. I will go to the macmillan office in hospital this morning.

    Take care and thanks

    xxx