The F**kit List

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Last year as I hit my preliminary expiry date, (before committing to developing my own little virtual mind dump on the internet), I asked my Facebook friends for some advice on one of the most common questions I had been asked in that 12 months. That query was, “What had I put on my ‘Bucket List?”

I'm sure we are all familiar with this, but for those of you who for some reason haven’t come across the term, this is a list of things to do before you die.

To be honest, being a cantankerous middle aged man of simple pleasures and limited imagination, I’m pretty happy sharing time with my family, and spending a Saturday night watching Match of the Day with a cold beer; even if my team’s usual performance normally inspires me to further foreshorten my already limited time on this planet.

 However, those frequent enquiries into my shamefully unambitious plans motivated me to start a ‘F**kit List’; an index of indifference, a catalogue of clichéd ambitions that I refuse to set myself as a measure my life’s contentment, success and validity. (Tony Hancock is alive and well and lives in me.)

 Anyway, with tongue in cheek and continuing to stick two fingers up at my prognosis you can read more about it here on my website.

 Let me know if you have any good ones!

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Eamonn, just popping by to let you know I'm really enjoying your blogs.  Also, that  'Don't swim with dolphins' is a sentiment that is surely crying out to be printed on a T-shirt. :)

  • Hello Eamonn I too enjoy reading your blogs.I haven't as yet been given an expiry date but the way some people react when they hear you have cancer has on occasion left me wondering if they know something I don't.You know the ones who nudge each other and talk in whispers "she's had cancer you know" Some people also asked me had I got a bucket list or suggested I make one again do they know something I don't? I too told them no I have a f**k it list but they never appeared very interested in that.Still I guess cancer did spur me on to learn to drive and pass my test first time at the age of 63 not as exciting as leaping from a plane and my parking is still a work in progress but I'm quite proud of myself.I also got myself a passport and have done a little travelling.Non of these things are earth shattering Like you it's the every day things the little things I think matter more.I join you in sticking two fingers up and the American way if just the middle finger to your prognosis may you remain cantankerous and enjoy the simple pleasures and I hope your teams performances improves Cruton
  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Thank you Laura,

    When you see the words Admin you prepare for a telling off, (I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea!) so I'm happy to see that you have enjoyed reading some of the inanity that has leaked it's way out of my head and into the public realm.

    I think your idea on the t-shirts is definitely going to make it onto my bucket list.

    Even though I feel like I've said all I want to say on this whole cancer thing, new things keep popping up, (not least my feelings about engaging in the wider cancer community here on the MacMillan site), so I'm hoping to post a more incisive article of some depth up on the site this week.

    I'll pop a notice up here when I do and I hope you will enjoy reading it.

    Regards

    Eamonn

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Cruton,

    Thank you for reading and I'm glad there were some ideas that you could relate to. I have found that by engaging with more people who are in a similar situation as me, that we all have our own ways of coping and planning the rest of our lives, However, I have been surprised at how many people just feel like they want to enjoy the little things in life a bit more and appreciate them, and if there are some things you genuinely just never got around to, well, why not do them now? As opposed to suddenly creating life dreams that you actually never aspired to when you thought you'd live forever!

    Congratulations on passing your driving test and doing some travelling regardless of age or diagnosis.

    And my team, Liverpool, are surprisingly doing really well just right now, so fingers crossed!

    Keep on doing whatever leaves a smile on your face:-)

    Regards

    Eamonn

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Thanks Eamonn, sounds really interesting and I look forward to having a read when it's ready!