Hi,
This is my first time on the site and I don't really know what I'm hoping. My mum has been fighting cancer for 10 years and was considered something of a medical miracle, with doctors writing papers on her and nearly hitting the national news. But on Sunday I was informed that the cancer has come back and that she won't win this one: she will have chemo followed by radiotherapy in an effort to extend her life from 1 to 3 years but they just don't know if it will work.
It just feels so unfair. I know I would think this but she is the most amazing, strong woman - she has such a big, kind, intelligent personality and although she seems to be at peace with the way things are I can't help wanting to scream, why can't this have happened to someone more deserving (how can anyone deserve cancer?)? Why won't she be at my wedding or see my children and be the cool grandmother compared to all the 'normal' 'boring' grandparents they will have? I feel like such a terrible person but I keep wishing it on other people so that it were anyone else but her, which is so cruel.
Does anyone have any advise about how to get through this gut-wrenching pain? Every time I wake up there is the second where it's not true and then I remember and I feel like I'm going to throw up.
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