I was just told at the start of the week that my granny has been diagnoised with lung cancer.
i dont know much about it except its 4CM.
no1 seems to want to answer my questions, maybe because they dont have the answers themselves or maybe because im young& they think i shouldnt know. but then im just gonna be taken by shock were i would rather be prepared and know whats going on.
i jst duno what to do or think anymore, im so sad and its all very sureal..
i need someone to talk to& i came on here to look at some blogs where it seems people were helping alot.
do you know how long people tend to live with lung cancer?
she went to a biopsy or however you spell that, and apparently weregetting the results this week on weather they will be able to do anything for her, i know its to advanced to operate, so i guess that means we've basically to watch her die?
its one of the worst things ive ever experienced, ive never lost someone close to me& my granny is as close as it gets next to my mum of corse, my mums in quiet a state too& i dont really know what to say to her.
fingers crossed they will be able to help her shrink it or something ANYTHING
please someone get back to me.
- from a worried teenager.
xx
FormerMember
Sorry to hear about your Gran, it must be so very upsetting for you, even more so not knowing what is going to happen next. If you click onto groups and scroll down to carers you will find other people of a younger age in similar situation to yourself and it might help to talk to them. I am also on that group, so hope to speak to you there. Also on this web site you can put in the cancer type you are dealing with and find others with lung cancer. They may be able to help you with some of the questions you may have. Hope this has been of some help.
Don't underestimate the work of Chemotherapy. It can shrink tumours to almost nothing.
I do think you have to speak to one or other or both of your parents and tell them you need to know about your granny's cancer. If you can understand enough to want to look it up on the internet, you can understand enough to be told how it affects her. It is worse when people won't tell you. You could ask her once you have a bit of knowledge, if you think she will tell you.
Then when you know more, you can give her all the love you can. Of course you would anyway, but knowing how she is makes it easier to know how best to help. This will help her not to be so frightened. It won't probably do much about her cancer, but when you really know your whole family loves you a lot, it does help you to feel better. You can plan on a good Easter, or celebrating her birthday in a special way. Of course she may have quite a long time, with good times to cheer her along her way.
As part of the family, you are all in this together, and you can make the coming time a good experience for you all, as well as a bad one.
I'm not sure exactly how old you are but if you're old enough to come on this site and look for answers, I think you're old enough to share this problem with the rest of your family. Maybe you could show your blog and our replies to your mum? I sound like Virginia Ironside here! (Ask your mum, she'll know who she is.) Anyway, I think you need to sit down and have a serious talk with your mum and tell her you're not a little kid any more (you seem quite mature to me) and you need to know what's going on. She might be relieved that she has someone to share it all with once she understands that you don't need to be protected from what's going on. Even if you were a little kid of 7 or something, it would still be better for you to know the truth. But it's just a fact of life that parents always want to protect and shelter their kids. They think they're doing the right thing so don't be hard on your mum.
And Rwth's right, they can do a lot with chemotherapy so don't be too downhearted. Just concentrate on loving your granny and making life comfortable for her.
Please let us know how you're getting on.
With best wishes from a very ancient hag - Shelagh
Thanks alot of your comments they were very helpful.
i spoke alot to my mum& she opened up to me,
found out its small-cell lung cancer
its placed at the top of her lung& too advnaced to operate, but were just enjoying the time we have for her& treating everyday as a bonus, im 18 btw.
i now know alot more about the cancer and its helped me understand she starts her first dose of Chemo on wednesday which i am not looking forward to, i just hope she doesnt get too sick from it.
i'll keep you's posted on how shes doing thanks again
Seems like you're a lot more sorted in your head now. Good for you. You'll be OK and I'm so glad you were able to talk to your mum. You need to be there for each other (and for your granny). Yes, do keep us posted.
