Hi all,can anyone out there give me some advise on how to cope with dealing and copeing with my terminal husband?My darling was diagnosed with bowel cancer in nov2015 we were told that all went well after his op and he started a course of chemo in Jan this year but by the fifth course he was having a lot of pain in his back and constipated most of the time.He finally got to have a cat scan and a new cancer had come back near his kidney but too deep to operate.We were told last Thursday that he is now terminal but if he's well enough this Thursday they want to try him on a different chemo but keep him on the tablet form of chemo.Although we were told that they were not giving him a persific time scale which is good I carnt help these horrible thoughts that it's going to be sooner than later.I no it's still early days but he's been so poorly since Friday,we had to get the paramedics out as he blood pressure was raised to 162/103 he was very pale,not able to eat or drink much a very constipated,they decided to up his dose of tablets for the constipation and told him to drink plenty,thankfully he's improved a little bit and had his bowels open once yesterday,but since all of this has happened it's made me very scared.Im sorry if I'm babbling on a bit,I just wish I could get these horrible thoughts out of my head.Am I over thinking the worse before its begun after all if he's fit enough to start the new chemo on Thursday and God willing he copes with it well,it may do the job of shrinking it and stopping the cancer from spreading further for a while or longer.Feel like I'm going mad so early on in this journey.Thank you if you've taken the time to read this and I hope it finds you well love Shirley (mrsb) ❤️
