They say things happen in threes'

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Honestly, I couldn't make this up. 

Another night, another email, another "friend" who is now not. This one really does takes the biscuit. 

Like many people when they first get diagnosed, I shared the news with friends because I thought I should tell them and if I'm being honest, because I hoped they'd be supportive. I was soon inundated with text messages and emails that I found increasingly difficult to answer. So having read a wonderful post by someone who was obviously in a similar situation, I took their lead and decided to write a group email to close friends with updates. A little impersonal maybe but it was a lot easier to manage. Because the emails would undoubtedly contain very personal information, I made sure that it only went to those whom I thought would respect the contents.

The email I received this evening, made me recoil in horror. I was told he sent my private email to a religious leader, because he had discussed my medical details with the clergyman and he was "interested". Then I was gleefully informed, he had read it out aloud to a group of friends who had been told the entire contents and had found them amusing. This was done without my permission. 

I am a pacifist who has never hit anyone, however, if this person was standing in front of me right now, I fear I would punch him on the nose. And I wouldn't need any encouragement from Beelzebub either. 

They do say things happen in threes'. 666. That fits. 

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Thank sounds great sweetheart I am so sorry about the lack of confidentially it's your business who you share your illness with take good carex

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Blueeric, I'm fine, thank you for asking x

    You're bang on. What we write in our blogs is one thing but personal emails, with very personal information is quite something else. I would not dream of doing what this ***** did (choose your preferred expletive). I told him I am utterly disgusted and very upset and he won't hear any more from me. Barking. 

  • I was horrified to read the extent you had been "exposed"! That is a huge betrayal of trust. I was trying to think up a humourous revenge, but felt it might not be too PC to post! As you say, Barking!

    For similar reasons I told no one of my diagnosis, except 1 friend. I have others, but I knew the temptation to "lovingly" spread the news "in confidence of course" would be too great. When hubby was ill the torrent of calls, texts and emails proved too great, and very wearisome. So we were forced to cut right back, and some were offended and took off. But they were only in it for the juicy bits anyway!

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Liddyloo, I really appreciate what you felt. I had to temper my fury too. What goes on in people's minds when they do things like this is an absolute mystery to me. I know none of us are perfect but there are limits.

    The so called friends who only got in touch I've discovered weren't such good friends after all. It sounds like you and your husband experienced a similar thing too.

    Isn't it good that we have somewhere like this to console with each other?! :)

  • I am sorry that you have been so badly let. I think I must have been quite fortunate in that I haven't had this experience. The only problem I had was a work colleague when I was diagnosed the first time who said to another colleague 'but it might not be malignant" !!!

    I find so many people say 'but you look really well' I feel as if I ought to apologise for not looking terrible. How daft is that. You take care and no notice of people who upset you. Be a little bit selfish and put yourself first. xx