Well...it's the countdown to surgery for my dad he's very anxious and mum is filling him up with 'Kalms', bless him. He is a 60yr old healthy man that only got a GP last year cause his theory was if you go looking you will find and dada...here we are!!Two days before the removal of a liver tumour. Well it is thought to be a primary but they are doing an exploration at the sane time...well my heart is full of dread and quite frankly i'm a miserable cow at the minute...i am a nurse and all i can see in my mind is complications and the negatives...obviously i am not saying this to him or my family. i have great friends but i don't do asking for help very well it's my job to help my friends and i'm just not able to do that right now! I have a wonderful partner and two small kids and our life is very full and busy and i'm clutching and keeping things together...SOrry that's it a very self indulgent winge and it's not even me that is having to go through it!!!!
My poor dad hates hospitals!!! I just hope they look after him properly and to my standards which are high!!! I am currently pain nurse and one of my fears is that they don't control his pain i think i will have to sit on my hands and tye my tongne!!! I f they find out i am a nurse they will see me as difficult i'm sure ( i know the mentality).
Anyway i see people having straightforward surgery all the time and i need to stop transfixing on ones that have had problems! I don't really write much(normally) i just listen to you all and take comfort in ALL of you as so many of you sound as though you have such big hearts and are so supportive! So there i have put down my thoughts...
Any advise on getting a grip apart from me slapping myself greatfully recieved...
waiwai x
FormerMember
You have said it yourself. You are in a position to be able to see, or even to know what questions to ask of your dad. You can then ask worriedly the questions you need to ask of the people you know can help. You don't need to come out of the closet and admit you are a nurse, just be an informed relative. You know there are plenty of those about.
There should be lots of information you dad was given before he went into hospital, and you can find out what pain relief system they are using with him. if it isn't working well, you can point that out and ask if he could have X which you have read about. A bit of brow furrowing and misnaming of systems will hide your real knowledge.
You may have seen many patients, straightforward and problematical, but this one is your father, and you owe him your best shot.
