So sad

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FormerMember

21 Sep 2009

Mum has been on a trial since june. The first scan showed the tumor in her neck hadn't grown and may have reduced slightly. 6 weeks on and the scan has shown that 2 other tumors have appeared and now they have taken her off the clinical trial and she is due to start standard chemo tomorrow. I think this is the last thing that they can try for her. She is due to be scanned again in 6 weeks and if the chemo hasn't done anything then i don't know if i can bear it. She's been talking to me about arrangements and priests and hospices and i can't believe this is happening. She looks well and feels ok yet i know the cancer is spreading and that there may not be much time left. I'm not sure if i have the strength to face whats approaching and life afterwards without mum. Why is this happening to us?

FormerMember over 15 years ago

Hello Vicky, so sorry about your mums

cancer, but try not to think too much about what might happen. You say your

Mum looks well, make the most of that

till things change.I know you how your

feeling, its very hard to see the light at

the end of the tunnel when all you can think about is you might loose your Mum,

we all think our mums are invincible and

cant see life without them.Give your Mum

all the support she will need in the coming

weeks, spend time doing things together

this will give you more happy memories

if and when things dont go as you hope.

Come on this site when you need to rant

and you will always find a friend to help

you to talk about your feelings.

I send you a big HUG and i am here if

you need a shoulder to cry on.

Lucy Lee.
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FormerMember over 15 years ago

Hi Vicky,

Sorry to hear about your mum. I agree with Lucy lee, if your mum looks and feels relatively well, make the most of it and enjoy these special moments. I know it's hard to hear your mum talking about arrangements and stuff, but at the same time that means your mum trusts you and is confident with you to beable to talk about such sensitive issues. Maybe she wants to sort things out so that it is one less thing for her to worry about and she can concentrate more on enjoying her time with the people she loves and leaving you all with beautiful treasured memories.

My grandad was told in july his condidition had progressed to acute myeloid luekaemia and he is so precious to me. I treasure everyday I spend with him. If you have got a good strong support network of friends and family behind you, you will find the strngth from somwhere.

Stay strong and best wishes x
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FormerMember over 15 years ago

The ladies above have said it all, just wanted to add a big old cyber hug for you.

We find the strength, simply because we have to. We don't want to.....but thats another matter.

Enjoy time with your Mum while she is doing so well and long may that last.

Debs xx
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FormerMember over 15 years ago

Hiya Vicky,

It seems we have a lot in common, sadly. My Mum was diagnosed early, last October. Like your mum got the all clear in April, but now has secondaries in lung, chest, adrenal glands and poss lymph. She has begun chemo again. I havent even asked how long, but it doesn't look good. I'm 31, My mum is 65.
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FormerMember over 15 years ago

Thanks for responding each of you. It really helps a lot knowing that other people understand what you're going through. I do have a strong network of friends and a close family so i know i'll get myself and my sisters through this i just wish i didn't have to. I'm going to speak to the doc on friday and find out a bit more. I just wish i knew that mum would be here for xmas, them my sons 1st birthday in jan etc but all we can do is hope. Will they ever find a cure for this awful disease? We can only hope. I'm on line most nights.

Take care everyone. Chat soon x
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