Do not read if you do not want to be well informed about 'the end' or last few weeks and days. I am posting these because after loosing my father to a liver secondary (he had acute liver failure right at the end, deteriorated at an remarkably fast rate..all of this owing to a bowel primary found 2 years prior). I now have the reflection after my father's death and I wish I'd been better informed about the end, as I could have provided for him better. I did write a detailed post about my father's final days immediately after being bereaved, it was very candid and detailed and unfortunately offended some people on this site. I hope that people who read this remember that bereavement of such a close person involves heightened emotions and I am also in my final trimester of pregnancy which only adds to this. I don't apologize for sending that post as I only ever intended to help and improve others lives and NOT upset them. I was very upset to read I'd offended people, but I suppose everyone takes a different approach to cancer and when you're in the midst of it yes the prospect of the end is very scary and many people want to avoid the subject enitrely. I know my father, the patient never discussed the end, or aknowledged it to myself or my mother. Here are some links anyway:
http://www.merck.com/mmhe/sec10/ch139/ch139f.html
The following site is American, or a little more international and a s a result the posts a re a little more candid than the Macmillan crowd. I find this very helpful. Perhaps after spending a number of years living in the Sates I've become more direct as many Americans are compared to the 'reserved' British.
http://www.cancerforums.net/post-9555.html
