tonsil cancer....has it come back??

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FormerMember

3 Oct 2011

long story played out over only 20 months.....in a nutshell....new partner diagnosed with tonsil cancer in july 2010....just a few weeks after us meeting. intensive chemo and radio....ended in jan 2011...all clear in april 2011....then from july ...massive depression kicked in!! and i mean huge!!! he s turned to drink big style ..and has for the last 8 weeks!! hasnt been looking after himself at all.....really has been horrific!! yesterday he seemed a little better...but i have noticed that his neck on the site of the radiiotherapy is very very hard now. im sooo scared its come back. a friend of mine...a cancer survivor herself has said maybe it could be scar tissue....my partner went to the docs about the drinkin etc today and did ask about his neck...and she is trying to get in touch with his consultant as she said it doesnt feel right. obviously this doc isnt a cancer specialist....but im soo scared.! pleased she s contacting someone for him.....has anyone got any advice...on neck hardening..depression...turning to booze!!!?? any advice really!! used to come on here when he was going thru treatment and found it really helpful

thanks all

FormerMember over 13 years ago

I understand how you feel Leeset.Well it might just give him a wake up call.It is down to him in the end.Take care xxxx
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FormerMember over 13 years ago

thanks janique. i dont know...and prob wont find out. i rang him to speak.....and when he wasnt hearing what he wanted to i was promptly told to fk off!! soo....err...think i have the picture now. have actually told him not to speak to me or text me again and i shall certainly f off, just so tired of it. funny.......just been reading my blogs on here from last year...exactly this time...how in love we were...and how strong we were in all this. cancer doesnt just take health does it??

lisa x
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FormerMember over 13 years ago

thanks janique. i dont know...and prob wont find out. i rang him to speak.....and when he wasnt hearing what he wanted to i was promptly told to fk off!! soo....err...think i have the picture now. have actually told him not to speak to me or text me again and i shall certainly f off, just so tired of it. funny.......just been reading my blogs on here from last year...exactly this time...how in love we were...and how strong we were in all this. cancer doesnt just take health does it??

lisa x
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FormerMember over 13 years ago

Dear Lisa

As you said: you need to look after Lisa! Whatever you decide, we'll be here to help you.

All the very best

Georgia XXXXXXXXX
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FormerMember over 13 years ago

hiya georgia

thanks for the message. yes i do have to look after me...and my daughter (not his child). luckily me and him dont live together so thats a bonus anyways! he sent an apology for telling me to fk off.....but i dunno....thinkin too little too late. am i unreasonably to think you cant keep forgiving someone all the time...and making allowances for them all the time???? heads a shed.....but im sure it ll clear. wondering what tomorro will bring...or even if he ll go. unsure of that one. this will be the first appointment in the whole of the journey that i haven been to with him. gonna be strange

xx
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