Hi everyone I wondered if anybody can give me some advice please, my father is terminally ill February 2012 my father went to see the doctor in March we had the sad news he had a brain tumour after his operation we found out the words anybody would dread to hear he had a very large tumour on his lung which was cancer he has been so brave in July he asked the most difficult question for any person to have to ask how long the doctors told him 4 months it would be the brain cancer that would take my dad's life. Since my dad's diagnosis all in all even knowing he was slowly deteriorating he has been as expected but since Christmas he has fast he is finding walking difficult eating difficult and sleeps a lot he sometimes loses his temper and his words are hurtful towards the ones he loves the most which is not like him at all iv been told because how much he had deteriorated to make every chance I get spent with him which more than anything in the world I will. I don't want my dad to suffer and him to be as comfortable relaxed and pain free as possible. If anyone has ever been through this I would love to hear from you how long would you say my dad has left? Sounds very horrible saying that but I would like to know no matter how hard so I can make the most of my time with him thank you xxxx
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Hello Amy, yes it is very sad for you about your Dad but no one in the world can tell you when his life will be complete. When the doctors give estimates they are going mostly by statistics, but we are all different so no one can be sure. At the moment your father is, as you say, deteriorating so the best you can do is love him. Close your ears to hurtful words and temper, you know that is not him, it is only cancer talking! Be as patient as you can and hug him a lot and tell him repeatedly just how much you love him.....that's the most he will need from you now. I send you a hug and strength to carry you through. .love Elma. xx
Hello,
My mom passed away on the 20th December 2013, she had secondary vulvar cancer which had spread to her bladder and lungs. Mom's condition started to deteriorate around the 20th November, sleeping a lot more, which was also due to the morphine she was taking. I was able to go off work with stress and look after my mom at home with the help of my family. Right up until mom's last week she was still coming down stairs with assistance and a stair lift and she was put in a syringe driver and a catheter was inserted on the Tuesday and was in and out of consciousness until Friday am when she passed away. It really is a roller coaster and doesn't seem real 4 weeks later. By you being there that's is a great comfort and remember in these situations there is no right or wrong.
I hope this helps although obviously mom's was a different type of cancer.
