will i be strong enough to stay a lot longer

Hi Rob as usual good advice from everyone, i would like to add "don't be a victim" doctors tend to harp on the worst scenario in order to cover themselves and to ensure we are properly in formed and this does knock you right off track, we have all been there, what i have found helps me is to a get well informed so i know why i feel like i do and when i experience side effects from drugs ect i know what they are and how to deal with it, having got that out of the way, plan your day, distract yourself  take control of as much of your life as you can, this changes how you feel in yourself straight away its feeling so helpless that makes us depressed getting on with it is how you will beat it, there are plenty of examples of mind over matter and you can be one of them, fight on, live every day, better treatment is coming available all the time, you got a believe in yourself LOL Lynxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi Rob,

There is not much I can say that the ladies  above have not said, the thing is they are right. The next time you look at your son in bed,ask yourself are you my son worth fighting for. Then you will have your answer.

Take care and be safe Sarsfield.

Hi Rob

My husband Chris was diagnosed with stomach cancer in November 2008 at the age of 31, & unfortunately I lost him recently in November 2009.  I was 24 weeks pregnant with our son when he passed away, & it hurts me so much to know that my wonderful husband won't meet his pride & joy.

When he was diagnosed, my husband's prognosis was very poor (we didn't ask 'how long' but i learned only yesterday from his Dr that he had wowed them at the hospital).  He took everything in his stride - chemo, scan results - & lived each day as normal as possible, & always with a laugh & a smile.  He continued to work full time as a Police Officer until 3 months before he passed away, during which time he had 3 lines of chemo, ran the Great Manchester Run, completed the Manchester to Blackpool bike ride & qualified as a CID Detective.  We also had some of the best holidays, days out etc, & now for me, the best memories during those 2 years.

I miss my husband every minute of every day, but it makes me so proud to hear from others (especially his Dr & specialist team at The Christie) what an inspiration he was.  I honestly believe his postive & 'can do' attitude kept him going for so long.

Looking at your profile picture, it looks like you have a lovely wife/partner, & of course you mention your son.  Live your life each day, & enjoy it with your family.  Who knows what the future brings in terms of treatment etc.  There are new trials each day, & i'm sure with your young age, you'd be top of the list for any new drug.  Our Dr told us at the beginning not to underestimate the power of positive thinking, I believe that.  Good luck to you & your family with everything :)

can any one tell me how to answer every ones post  one at a time please coz al the advice u have given me helped so much and would like to answer every one 1 at time im not letting then beat me im going to get my girlfriend an engagement ring 2mrow  and gonna propose on our romantic night on saturday . all ur help and advice is the best every one here is so nice and we will all fight it to the end best wishes and a long and happy life to every one and every thing happens for a reason to make us who we are or help people around us

Thanks

Rob

How lovely rob, valentines engagement!....

You don't have to answer everyone, one at a time, you can just do what you have already done,.... Or just mention them by name..... The other way is to click on their name, or picture which takes you to their page, then send them a private message (pm) .... But we are all here to help each other, and don't expect anyone to have to reply individually .....

Good luck with your proposal

LIZ

Xoxoxoxo