Why do the doctors not seem to want to help

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During the night I had to get over to mum and dads, it all started when I called the pain clinic at the hospice as dads painkillers was not doing their job as the GPs dont seem to know much about hydromorphone I thought it was best to call the doctor that gave him the tablets, unfortunately she was off and I spoke to another doctor and told him dad was in a lot of pain he said because he did not know dad he didnt want to interfere with his tablets which I understood, he told me to call dads GP and get him to prescribe Lorazepam which I did, mum gave dad the tablet, I was on my way home from shopping and mum called me to say that dad had said to her he had had enough dinner and he was going to bed, she told him that he had not had any dinner yet but he said again he had had enough so she let him go to his bed, he got up shortly after and started turning the house upside down looking for 2 bottles of whisky, no one drinks whisky in our family, he was then looking for his tablets to throw them out he was agitated and scaring mum, I told her to give him a coffee and get him to sit down for a minute and drink it and see how he was after that as he had only had a yoghurt yesterday morning so I thought a sweet coffee might put his blood sugar up.  He was still very agitated and I could hear it in mums voice she needed me to come over and phone out the GP but was scared of his reaction so I got my uncle as I dont drive and mum and dad are at the other side of town.  We dashed over and dad was in a real state when we got there he looked awful, I asked him how he was and he said 'bloody awful' so I told him I was going away to call the out-of-hours service to see if we could get someone in to look at him he wasnt happy but he never went off on one which I expected.  I called the out of hours service and they sent someone out within a hour, he came and examined dad, when the doctor asked him how his pain was and his breathing and dad said 'fine' he had been complaining of pain since I got there so we had to say 'no dad you was in agony 20 minutes ago' he wanted to go upstairs to his bed, there is no stairs in mum and dads house, he was just very manic he could barely walk, he shuffles the doctor.  The doctor was happy with his blood pressure, pulse and temp so he said just not to give him a lorazepam again and went.  I just cannot understand the doctors they just seem to be giving him something else to get him of their case and for someone else to deal with later I called up about his pain and ended up with a carry on.  The doctor also kept on mentioning his brain which has unnerved me as we thought it had gone to his liver but never thought of the brain.  It is just so tiring, I think they need to take him in to the hospice and sort out his pain management as his hydromorpone was increased last thursday and here we are back at square one again with the pain.  I just do not know what to do I hate seeing him in pain and he is just not himself it is so frustrating.  I am going to try called his doctor from the pain clinic to see if she is in today and see what I can do.

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Terri, how awful for you seeing your dad in this state.

    We had a similar experience with my mum at the beginning of the year.  She doesn't have cancer, but had taken ill over New Year.  I popped in one day and she was lying bed slurring her words, talking gobbledygook.  I told my dad to phone the GP who arrived within ten minutes.  There was a suspicion that she had suffered a stroke as she was very confused and could see things that we couldn't. The doctor phoned for an ambulance which took about three hours to arrive. When they got her into the ambulance they tested her blood sugar as she is diabetic and it was very low, so they gave her some sort of glucose drink and she was right as rain. The ambulancemen couldn't believe the GP hadn't tested this. So, I know how scary it is seeing your parent in such distress.

    Keep at the doctors.  Your dad should not be allowed to suffer such pain. It seems that a lot of doctors just want to pass the buck.

    I hope you manage to get him some better pain relief today.

    Best wishes, Christine xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Thank you Christine, I called the doctor at the hospice this morning, Dads doctor was still off and they didnt want to deal with dad as they did not know him and told me to call his GP.  I called his GP and asked them to phone me back so I waited and they turned up at mum and dads house, they just gave him diclofenic a anti-inflammatory I was so mad that they never called me as mum doesnt always give them the whole story as she thinks some of its not relevant or doesnt matter its me who has the fears, the doctor mentioned last night about it being in his brain but we have not heard that before but his behaviour was still erratic this morning so when I called my uncle who was with me last night he said that the comment about the brain was sticking in his head too, I am glad he said that as I worry sometimes I over think things but him saying that helped me know I am not going mad....just yet.

    T xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Terri, i was going to send you a pm.

    but i cant find it on your profile, do you

    think you could send me a pm with your

    email address. i would like to talk to you

    about your Dad.

    Lucylee. xx