Front line definately good analogy

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After using the front line title in my last blog was maybe a bit psychic of me.  Today I went back to work, I called the hospital this morning before I left to check dad was ok, his blood pressure had come up a little and he had a comfy night which was good news.  Mum went to see him this afternoon and she said he was drowsy so there wasnt much conversation, I expected him to be pretty much the same when I got there tonight, man was I wrong.  I have never seen him so worked up and angry and frustrated in my whole life.  He was complaining when me and my uncle went in, he couldnt fine his glasses we found them but he wanted his other pair and was cracking up because I could not find them, in the end I said I would call my mum and ask her where they was.  They was at home he never had them there, so I gave him the glasses he had there he put them down then 5 seconds later he was looking for them again we put them in his pyjama pocket, a minute later he couldnt find them.  I went to talk to one of the nurses as they have him on nil by mouth so he is only getting sips of water, he has had no food since Saturday so he is starving they keep saying there is a blockage in his bowel and to my knowledge his bowels are working fine.  She told me that he had go up to the toilet himself and he pulled his IV out luckily not the needle part so he wasnt hooked up to IV fluids when I was in, he has a catheter and he started fiddling about with it I had to turn as he didnt seem to realise I shouldnt see that but then I started getting anxious that he was going to rip it out, he keeps telling us storys that we have no idea what he is going on about so we just humour him because he gets frustrated when we dont know what he is talking about.  He was managing to laugh a little at times, it was like looking after my 3 year old grandson, phew I hate to say it I had to get out of there I was not prepared for that at all.  His blood pressure has stabilised now so I am away to email his doctor at the hospice and see if we can get him a place in there as he is on the waiting list but they needed his blood pressure to stabilise so hopefully now it has we can get him moved to a place more specialised in this.  Well I better get on I have a ton of work to get through.  I'll be back tomorrow with my next report.

 

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Terri the sooner you get your dad into

    the hospice the better. He will be watched

    at all times if he is confused, and you will

    also be kept up to date on his condition.

    It is very worrying when you see your dad

    in this confused state, and sometimes a

    catheter can cause infection which would

    add to his confusion,, and it might also

    be irritating him. I do hope you find your

    dad more settled when you visit again.

    With Love Lucy Lee. xxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Insomniac at work again, I wish I could sleep.  Yea I have just sent a email to his doctor at the hospice in the hope that this maybe speeds things up for him.  One way I am looking at it I was dreading going to see him and him being all drowsy that would have just left me to worry all day while I am out of Aberdeen, he was very much alive and kicking today.

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi hun, such ups and downs for you to cope with.  Stupid to say I know - because you will keep going on as long as your mum and dad need you to - but try to look after yourself as well.  It is very exhausting for you.  

    Judi x