Hello again, having had what felt like dozens of checks the only way to get a final diagnosis was to have a hysterectomy and checks would be done on the bits taken out.
Throughout the medical professionals I spoke with said the results so far were suspicious the most appropriate word to use, its not a definite but.....
This is the point at "what do you tell people", I had a real dilemma over this. In one respect I was fortunate I had given up work 6 months previously so did not have to deal with that scenario. In general I just spoke to friends and family very factually, I did not speculate. I was low key about it just sharing it with family and close friends. If they wanted to tell other people that was fine as I did not want to feel I was burdening them with anything.
People's reactions varied, my rock has been my husband (he was diagnosed with CLL about 18 months ago but on the "watch & wait" regime) Aren't we the lucky pair! He has been fantastic, with me every step of the way but I know it's stressed him out.
My bestie was great too she listened and bought me flowers (they do cheer me up at one point we looked like a florist) Other close friends differed some seemed wary but kept in touch but I know them well enough to know they care. Ex work colleagues and my neighbour always asked how it was going and that was kind.
I have a brother who through very fortunate timing was in the UK for 6 months to help with our parents. God knows what I would have done if he was still abroad and I was in treatment and having to deal with both parents with Alzheimer's. He's been great dealing with all of that side of things. My sister in law was fantastic too, she runs a business in Australia so while in the UK because of the time difference, she was working at night and sleeping during the day.
Given the situation with my parents of course I did not tell them which in one way felt odd however in a way made things easier for me.
So I am very fortunate with all of that support around me it made a huge difference. I made more of an effort than I usually had to keep in touch with people. This was because I had more time and needed the support. Going through this experience has made me appreciate people, their kindness brought a tear to my eye on many occasion.
Whatever the situation others are in, seek out support if you do not have family, reach out you will be amazed by the kindness out there.
Much love.
