my 78 year old auntie was taken in to hospital saturday night with swelling of the face she was unrecogniseable, but docors didnt know what it was we stayed until 4 am when she was at last comftable, we went home an was woken up at 10 am the consultant wanted to see us................................. CANCER in the lung and it had spreaded into the liver!!she was admitted in april 2009 and had numerous scans nothing was found now in August it has spreaded into the liver!! how was nothing found in april!!
they cany do anything about it as it is to widespread and aggresive so now were at the hospital everyday waiting and waiting watching her slowly and painfully fade away what a cruel cruel disease cancer is, if she was a dog she would be put down!!
i just cant see a light at the end of a tunnel, they wont give us a time on how long she has left, not long they say but whats that days? weeks? months???? i need to stay strong for my dad but its so hard and draining watching her day in day out just laid there.
can you fight it at this stage??? i just dont know what to do...she is the strongest,bravest lady i will EVER meet, at this point she is still smiling at the nurses when the consultant told us all she just smiled at him!!! my heart is breaking...
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FormerMember
My heart goes out to you and your family. It is quite disturbing certainly that they didn't find anything in April, but if it is aggressive as they are stating now, its is entirely possible it was not able to be picked up, but its hard to imagine such is the case.
The main thing for you to do now, right now, is to do your best to get your head around it all, and make sure that her current situation is one where she is comfortable and as pain free as can be tolerated. It is no longer about prolonging her life, but her quality of life in these last days, weeks or months. I know you wish there were more and I wish I could give you something more to hang on to, but my experience, and unfortunately I have more than I wish, is that you need to adjust your point of view as best you can. Then set about the task of making her as comfortable as possible so that she does not suffer in physical pain. It sounds as though emotionally she is in very good shape.
Be strong, have courage, hold on tight, its a rough ride.
I cannot add anything much to what lori has said. My heart goes out to you and your family. My mum was very much as you describe your aunt in that she kept on smiling throughout all her ill health and differing diagnosis. (She had many things including lung ca). It hope that you can all stay strong. x x Patricia x x
