Hi,
Well this is the first blog that I have written, but I have been using this site for the last few weeks, and the support that i have been given in the chat has been amazing, thanks. also the website has given me pratical advice.
Well some of you probably now that on the 8th nov my mum died from terminal cancer at the age of 55. Yesterday 24th nov was her funeral, it was a very hard day for me, because it became very real that my mum was no longer here, but it was also an amazing celebration of her life, and also i know that my mum is now at peace and not suffering anymore.Today I am beginning to move on with my life and getting things back on track.
Goodbye my mum love u always and you were not only my mum you where my best friends, thanks for the happy memories, love alwaysxxxx
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Hello Steff and thank you for being so brave to share the loss of your mum here. I'm sure she was aware how much you loved her and it would have been a great comfort to her to know that you could be strong for her.
It's never easy to lose a parent, whatever your age and the funeral does make it 'final' doesn't it?
I wish you lots of happy memories of your mum to gradually replace your loss of her. Sending you a big hug and lots of love at this very sad time.
Steff, it has been a true pleasure to get to know you in the chat room and share a little in your journey. I'm in awe of your strength and courage. Know that you are going through the process of grieving that we all go through and the best thing to do is to fully experience it as best you can. You will always miss her terribly, but the day to day pain of it will lessen over time and then you can really begin to honor her and share the joys of all the memories she has left you with. Love, Lori
Hi Steff - I give you my sincere condolences on the death of your dear Mum. It must have been quite hard for you to write the Blog in the fist place, but I guess it's a way to show you're brave and ready to face life again. We never forget our lovely Mum's, but with time we learn how to remember them, sometimes with a tear, sometimes with a smile, but ALWAYS with love. Lots of love kate xxxxxxxxxx
Not going to put much here as we had a good chat yesterday, glad to see your blog,like Kate Jock said its like a way of showing your brave and ready to face life again.
I know your Mum was sooo brave too and as you know my thoughts are with you.
Steff I am so sorry for your loss, many years ago when my dad died, someone sent me this poem and it gave me a lot of strength, I am now supporting my mum in her last few months.
I hope this poem gives you the same strength
Death is Nothing at All
I have only slipped away into the next room,
I am I, and you are you,
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.
Call me by the old familiar name.
Speak of me in the easy way which you always used.
Put no difference into your tone.
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.
Laugh as we always laughed
At the little jokes that we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.
Let it be spoken without an effort,
Without the ghost of a shadow upon it.
Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same as it ever was.
There is absolute and unbroken continuity.
What is this death but a negligible accident?
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
