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My husband died on 14th November and although I have my good and bad days I am coming slowly to terms with it.  The problems I am now having relate ' to being own my own'.  Last night I had a financial adviser round and although money isn't a problem at the moment as I am still working the problem will be when I retire. Also I am having problems with my electrics.  Steve would have sorted it straight away and my brother, god bless him, did try but it looks like I will have to call out an electrician.  Not a big problem some might say but when you have had someone fixing these problems for 37 years I feel it is. There are other things I have to get to grip with- like where are all the time switches? especially those for the garden lights and everthing else that he used to do and I never got involved with.  Gosh how I reget it now.  Still are they really important? I read a lovely poem in the paper today and I would like to share it with you.

If tears could build a stairway and memories a lane, I'd walk right up to heaven and bring you home again.

 

Love and hugs Stacey xxx

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Stacey, yes we leave all the technical things to our hubbies,then we dont know where to start when were on our own.Its another thing you have to get your head round, take every day as it comes for now, and one hurdle at a time.

    Love And Hugs Lucylee. xxxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I'd be right on that walk with you Stacey, it is a nice poem .

    I am sitting here looking at my lounge ceiling, all water damaged from when Hans was having 5 baths day and night to ease the pain. The bath was only ever used by my daughter and to suddenly and regularly have 17 stone in it loosened some joints and our ceiling had burst through before we knew anything about it. I can't even think about calling anyone to fix it yet.

    I know exactly what you mean about taking it for granted that Steve did all those things. That's just how a partnership is, we each have our jobs and never consider one day we may have to do them ourselves. Makes the loss all the harder to bear and our lives all the more difficult at a time when we don't need problems.

    A friendship hug for you today Stacey.

    Love Grace X

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    hi stacey, do you know on thur morning i was joking to ju ,through tears that i needed 3 manuals, one for diy, gardening and mechanics, then fri morning the battery on his car was flat, and i almost burst into tears but i dont know how but i bit my lip and sorted it out with the help of a neighbour, yes i actually asked for help, thats a first ,

    yes we do take these things for granted but thats a marriage isnt it, im still struggling sleeping on my own as ju is in chair down stairs every night now , im just hoping with time i will get used to it,

    what can i say to help you though , not much except my love and hugs to you xxxxxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Jenni,

    I am so sorry that you are having such a terrible time.  The trouble with living down here is that I've very few neighbours and then they mainly old ladies!!

    My daughter keeps saying don't stress things will be sorted - the trouble is I am not used to getting people in and now I have got a gardener and I've got to find an electrician and builder - ugh!!!!!

    You are doing so well but please look after yourself.

    Love and hugs Staceyxxxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi stacey, so sorry you are finding things so hard x x x