Yes I see your point Sue, but dont forget Cancer sufferers can get depressed. Positivity is the last thing on their minds. So you have to give a bit of give and take. The same goes for their Carers.
You're right, Sarsfield - and we're all open to that possibility becoming a reality - but I think (wary of putting words into Sue's mouth here) that we're talking about the people who treat the whole thing like a bad tv drama - not really interested in what you're feeling / experiencing but in how they can get a leading role in it. I'm not talking about people who are just unsure or nervous how to act / respond to the situation either. That can be sorted out fairly easily.
They come out with the most crass stuff - a few gems I can remember...
"What 're you doing out? I thought you were ill."
"You don't look ill." (with a look of disappointment)
"You must all be feeling sooo depressed!"
I got through my treatment fairly well on a day to day basis - the good days and the bad days. I know that's not the same for everyone and, believe me, I'm thankful. But I did learn that if you have to deal with such nonsense from people, looking like you're dealing with it your way really does shut them up - better than any argument you could have with them.
Likewise, I'd hate to think that anything I said on my blog would upset anyone. I think we (I) have to write assuming that no-one reading has any reason to feel that we (I) would deliberately hurt / upset them. I know we all have slightly different paths as we wander round MacLand but I take that as a 'given' - if I talk about one particular aspect of dealing with cancer, it doesn't mean I'm disrespecting or somehow making light of another aspect that someone else is experiencing differently.
Getting the balance right can, sometimes, be tricky though - some of the gallows humour I come out with at home / on here after nearly 2 years of this is too much for some of my friends and I respect that -we have totally different perspectives on the whole business of Life now. Sometimes though, I just need to say what I think without worrying about protecting people - especially those closest to me - and this site gives me that opportunity. Ach, burbled on again but just wanted to explain. It can be a solitary business can't it :-)
