Prostate Cancer - Never Let a Soul Brother Go Through the Suffering and Pain (STOP IT EARLY)

Hi Sister Cynth, I saw Darcus Howe on TV last week warning his black friends and family about prostate cancer. There is a lot of ignorance and fear regarding prostate cancer. It is very treatable but the black guys MUST GO FOR THE CHECKS, even more than their white cousins !!!!!

IF IN DOUBT,CHECK IT OUT !!!!!!!!!

Love Bill xxxxxx

Hi Sister Cynth. Thankyou for your story, I read it following your link. I consider myself lucky that my prostate cancer was detected in time, and has responded to treatment, thanks to an excellent medical team,I think you are an amazing couple, and I would urge all men whatever colour, or race, to get PSA checks done.

Best wishes to you both

Tony xx

Hello Sister Cynth & Father Hugh.. - My eldest brother has prostate cancer and also had to fight to convince his Dr to give him a PSA test... The Dr hadn't thought it was necessary as he couldn't "feel "  anything during the digital check-up. He's had surgery this year, and has just finished his 6 weeks of radiation. Your message is so urgent!!! Nobody should be dismissed like that.

So that's the story of my eldest brother. I'm actually on here because I'm the carer for my husband who has stage 4 rectal cancer. We're in the middle of our 4th year now struggling with this, and I only found this site last year. I have found as a carer, that the support here has helped me no end. It's a place that we carers can rant and rage and not be judged for doing so. I'm so glad to have found you!!!

To make matters worse, I have also lost a brother to Hodgkins... He had been diagnosed at the age of 14, and died at the age of 18 - in 1974 - before we had Chemo in Canada (where we're from). He actually died of over-radiation, as the doctors really didn't know  what they were doing in those days!

We've come a long way since then, and I do hope that the outcome for Hugh and for you will be a good one.

Again - It's wonderful to meet you across the big pond, although I'm sorry for the circumstances. I LOVE your photos!!!

Keep blogging!!!!

Love & Hugs to you both!!!

Mo

Mo, Tony & Bill

Thankyou, thankyou, thankyou for all of your responses, this really gives me the inspiration to carry on and raise the awareness of how Prostate Cancer can affect ones life (as well as all other Cancers).

On my husband side of family, we have lost both his parents to cancer (Breast & Pancreatic) also he has a sister and a niece, both being treated for Cancer.

This has been over the last four years. I have also lost a very dear friend two years ago due to Cancer.

The sad thing with my friend is that she continually was saying how much pain she was in (she lived in a Care Home and the staff there were fantastic). I was also her advocate, so anytime there was a review meeting I was invited. The last review meeting I was informed that my friend had been seen by her GP for blood test twice and the tests had come back irregular, she also lost two stone within a month (my friend was a big woman and had been trying to lose weight over the years).

When I heard all of this,it sent alarm bells going off in my head. I insisted that the staff make an urgent appointment and request a second opinion, because this definately did not sound right.

I was at work in March 2007 when I got a phone call from a member of staff from the Care Home, really upset. My friend had collapsed in their carpark (on her way to get the results from her last blood test). By the time I reached the hospital, I was asked if my friend had been in contact with anyone with TB.

It wasn't until a few days later at the hospital that her family & I were informed that she had got Cancer and it was that bad they were unable to tell us where it had orginal started from (Primary).

I have now got to the stage that, I do not mess around when it comes to family, friends and myself. Due to what I have seen, I have seen fear in the eyes of loved ones because they are so frightened of the unknown, I have seen where some have tried to get answers to questions and have been treated like they should not be asking and I have witnessed the physical pain they have been through and going through.

So now I do my reasearch and have my questions ready, and I will ask, and ask, and ask. If I am not happy I will ask for a second opinion.

We are all Human Beings and we can all make mistakes. But what I am saying is that those in the medical profession need to take on board what a patient or their carer is telling them. Sometimes it can be something or nothing but until what ever has to be done to elimminate, these quires. Everything possible should be done.

No one should have to suffer prolong pain or mis-diagnosis.

Love, Peace and Respect to you all.

Cynthia (aka Sister Cynth) & Hugh (aka Father Hugh)

P.S Mo I have family who live in Toronto.