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Hi , my dad has finally (we think) been diagnosed with urachal cancer after being told it was bladder, then bowel and now back to a `bladder` type cancer.  Has anyone experienced this cancer?  We were first told he had a tumour in August and we are still having test/scans/mri's etc.  My Dad is convinced there is nothing wrong with him on some days as he feels well and is in denial.  Then he has a bad day and is `not going to make it`.  I don't know how to help him.  I have become obsessed with reading anything I can about his condition (although very rare so not a lot on the net).  I spend days crying and thinking about him not being here and think I am going mad.  Yesterday was my Son's birthday and the thought of Dad not being here next year fills me with fear and dread.   My focus is Dad, who when I am around I am completely together, but when I am not with him I am mush and I am beginning to get annoyed with myself for feeling sorry for me and my fear.   Is this normal or am I going crazy.

 

 

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    You are NOT going crazy, when you hear the word cancer your life at first just falls apart. I was dx with breast cancer in Oct and still trying to get my head around it all. The fear comes hand in hand with cancer unfortunately but it does lessen with time and this site is a godsend. The fantastic people on here are a wonderful support and will listen when you feel the need to rant and rave, cry or even have a laugh (I know that sounds impossible at the moment I thought I would never laugh again) but I have found myself laughing again much to my suprise. I cannot offer any info help as I do nt have the same cancer but I am sure someone on here will be able to relate but I can offer my support whenever you need it.

    take care love Terri xxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    hello hun

    just wanted you to know you are def not going mad!

    worry-fear-dread-anxiety attacks-panic etc etc

    i have felt every awful emotion since feb -when my son was first diagnosed with testicular cancer + secondaries (with added complications)

    i honestly thought he wouldnt make it -he was so so poorly! well after chemo - an op - loadsa scans -4 seperate hospitals .......... today we have found out that they are happy with him ..... he has to have blood tests and another scan in 3 months ..........its good news!

    it does happen

    please dig deep find your inner strength and help your dad to LIVESTRONG

    try to focus on today .... what is being done today to help your dad

    good luck hun to you and your dad xNx