My Dad..... has it returned

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FormerMember

2 Nov 2010

Hi, late last year my dad was diagnosed with urachal cancer and had an operation to remove his bladder but with no chemo or radio. I wanted to know what stage etc. the cancer was at however, mum and dad did not.

Dad is now having trouble with his stomach. Pains, reflux, upset stomach etc. and I am so afraid its returned. Dad only has to have sneeze and we all worry so much. I know, when looking at him, he is thinking the same as us and we are all slowly going mad. Does this ever get any better or is this down to the `newness` if that makes any sense) and we will all relax and learn to live again before cancer entered our lives.

I hope I don't sound too selfish but I have never experience anything that has affected a family as much as cancer has ours.

Many thanks.

FormerMember over 14 years ago

Sorry I have no advice but I do sympathise with you. My 64yo old dad was diagnosed last month with terminal Stage IV glioblastoma. I want to know EVERYTHING about it but my parents do not. They are taking it day by day and I have to respect that.

I hope your dad is on the road to recovery soon.
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

Hi Shovel,

Deli has hit the nail on the head. Until you find out

what your Dads problem is, worrying wont help anyone. especially you and your family.

Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xx
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

Hello Shovel,

Having helped nurse both parents through Cancer, Dad, bladder, Mom skin+others, i have some idea what you are going through, I can only suggest that maybe you reserch on this website all the possibilties of your fathers condition, so at least you have some idea of what to expect & look out for, and just be there for the patient, we all cope with it in our own way, some want to know all about it, and others dont want to know any bit of it, i suppose we have to respect that, but it does make it hard for loved ones to come to terms with the situation and be of some help if they dont know what they are dealing with.

I now find myself in the same position as my dad, and dont really know if i am coping with it, he was so dignified about it, and just seemed to go with the flow, I only hope i have his courage in the months/years to come, i might have to dig deep though, as i am not from his generation.

I wish you the best of luck, we are all here for you.

Pauli.........
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