dad was d/x in january with bladder cancer with spread to lungs and prstrate and 1 lymh node, he has had 6 cycles of carboplatin and gemzar but unfortunatley his scan this week has shown chemo no longer working and tumours have grown bigger, specialist did offer radiotherapy to the bladder which my dad said he would go for, dad has a stent with bag in each kidney as kidneys had failed and that evening the specilist called to say he had spoken to the surgeon about having the stents put inside so dad wouldnt have the bags anymore and this would lessen chance of infection and the surgeon said he would do it but would also like to take dads baldder out, now i dont understand this as dad was told because he was stage 4 they would not do surgery as there was no point so why put my dad through such mayjor surgery?? specialist said it was to preseerve dads kidneys and they could then leave radiotherapy for when his lungs got bad and he also said it probaly wouldnt extend how long dad will live foe, i am so confused now and worried that dad thinks he is going to get better thats why they are operating
