dad is coming home

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FormerMember

11 Jan 2010

dad is coming home tommorow as nothing more can be done, so he is coming home to die with his family close by, hospital phoned yesterday for mum to go over as uick as she could , we have had this 3 times in last 10 days and he is still here, hospital phoned me as dad was asking for me so i rushed over to see him, he is so aggresive and abusive with the staff and also us at times as i think he is so distressed took 4 of us to calm him down and get him back in bed and he wont keep his oxygen on either, my dad hasnt a aggresive bone in his body and it was so distressing for me to watch its like my dad has gone and i dont know this person.Transport are bringing him home tommorow but wont have hospital bed and commode till friday so will have to manage best we can for now but we have no choise as i think his aggresion is because he wants to be at home and feel they are making him stay so hoping when he gets home he calms down a bit he is also very confused it will be hard and heartbreaking to nurse my own dad till the endbut i havebeen a carer for 16 years so have the knowledge just dont know i have the strength to get me though

FormerMember over 15 years ago

Sheena, its your dads illness making him

like that, plus the drugs he is on. But i

really dont think they should send him

home before you have the equipment

he needs, most hospitals would have that

sorted. Like you say your Dad might

feel better when his in his own home.

Make sure they give your dad a Macmillan nurse,and a palliative care nurse, you will need lots of support and

they can help you with any problems.

Hope everything goes ok for you, let us

know how you get on, and you know you

have friends here when you want to talk.

With Love Lucylee. xxxxxx
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FormerMember over 15 years ago

Sheena

U will find all the strength and love that u need to look after ur dad - dont know where it comes from - it just does

And u already understand that dads actions arent dad - its just how this illness takes over

Much love and best wishes to help u travel this rocky road

Chris xxx
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FormerMember over 15 years ago

Thinking of you - and keep blogging as there are many lovely people on here who will support you. Best wishes, Val
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FormerMember over 15 years ago

Sheena,

Im So sorry to hear about your dad. You will get the inner strength and love to cope. the Nurses and Family will also help. Belive in yourself and with all the help,I know you and your family and the friends on this site that are here to talk,might just make it that bit easier.

Take care and be safe.Sarsfieldxx
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