It is so unfair!

Hi Sharron, sorry you are going through this right now. I was in your position a few weeks ago with my dad.

I don't have any words of advice I'm afraid, but just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you. You can PM if you want to chat.

Take care and best wishes, Christine xx

You cope because you have to I suppose.  I've never had to experience anything like this but all I can think is that this is your Dad's decision and you must try to show him that you will get on with your life when he's no longer around, just as he hopes you will.

You're bound to get upset, anyone would, but try to be strong and give your Dad all the love you can for the time he is still with you.

My partner John has sometimes wondered whether it's worth carrying on with the chemo because of all the side effects.  I've always told him that it is his decision and I will stand by him whatever he decides.  He has one more round of chemo to go before he has a ct scan and the hospital decides whether it is worthwhile continuing with his treatment - so the decision might be taken out of our hands.

I'll be thinking of you sharron.  Be strong my love and remember there is always someone on here who will talk to you whenever you need to.

Take care

Love and *hugs*

Marjorie x x x x

Thank you so much Christine and Marjorie, I am so glad I found this site a few weeks back it really helps me get things in perspective and you are right you do just cope!!

He has been talking a lot about "after" in these last couple of days and that makes it even harder.

I am so sorry about your dad Christine, I really hope you are OK and Marjorie I am keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you and your husband.

Love and hugs

Sharron xxxxx

Thanks Sharron, I'm doing ok thanks. A lot better than I ever expected actually. Don't know if I am still in denial (sounds strange I know), but I haven't really grieved properly yet.

I absolutely adored my dad and cannot understand my response to his death, but we all deal with bereavement differently I suppose.

Take care hun. Keep in touch and let me know how things are with your dad.

Wishing you all the very best. Christine xx

i kinda know how you are feeling, my mum is having no treatment for her bladder cancer, however, nurse took blood on friday, dr visited later and asked us to talk to mum over the weekend to see if she will have a blood transfusion.  We have talked to her and she has agreed, so tomorrow i take her to hospital even though she had stressed she wanted no hospital or hospice intervention.  If your dad needs it, having family around sometimes gives them the fighting spirit they need, but equally they get tired, and as awful as it is to watch a loved one in pain sometimes you want their pain to end.  Saying that i have recently lost my dad and just think at the moment (me being selfish) its too soon to lose my mum too and i do want her to fight tooth and nail to stay with us.

Take care, and cherish every moment you have.

Love and Best Wishes

Splash xx