I'm struggling

Hi Sharron, how my heart goes out to you.  My dad passed away 5 and a half weeks ago. He was really bad tempered for a while which wasn't like him. I think he was angry at the situation he found himself in. He went from a big, fit healthy man to a shadow of himself within a couple of months.  He couldn't even bend down to put on his socks. It was heartbreaking.

You must also be angry at this bloody disease for doing this to your dad, and also fearful of what is to come.  It is only natural.  Please don't beat yourself up about it.  We go through a whole barrage of emotions with cancer, especially when we know our loved ones are dying. We have all been there, so don't hate yourself for it.

My thoughts are with you. I hope you have a lot of support to help you through this very difficult time.

Best wishes, Christine xx

Hi Sharron28,

What you are feeling and going through at this moment is natural. For the Stress that you and your family and your Dad are going through its a very rough time for everybody.You have to remain

Strong, Loving Caring and Understanding. I know thats easier said than done I have gone through it several times myself.

Remember on this site you have the most caring and Loving people, Who are here for eachother to help console and to cry and laugh with. So if you feel the need to talk there is always some one here to listen.

I hope things improve with your Dad.

Take care and be safe Hugs. Sarsfield.xxx

Hi Sharron, I think YOUR needs are paramount at this moment in time and I am sure there is a piece regarding carers on this site - please use it.  Also,  you as a carer can ring up Mac and speak to someone and they will point you in the right direction so that you can remain in charge and able to cope.  Please feel free however, to get on the site and let all your emotions OUT - we will listen, that's all we can do for you right now.  I must say, though, a visit to your gp for your own sanity and well being may be in order for you to get a little more support - just reach out.  Wishing you all the strength in the world, kind regards, Ann

Hi Sharron

I understand, I cared for my dad when he had a brain tumour. It was really tough and sometimes totally frustrating. If ever I had a bad moment with him I would panic because of how little time we had left together but i could not change my reaction to such a stressful situation, it would be unnatural to take it in your stride. I really relate to the idea that nobody else understands how you feel because you are his only daughter. I felt exactly that way and then I wrote on this site asking for "daughters missing their dads" and found that there are tons of people who felt the same way about their dads. Maybe it would help you to read their posts some day, it helped me because it made me feel that the way I was feeling was normal. You've been strong for so long, keep going, you can do it. love, strength and courage rb1 xxx

Thank you so very much everyone, today has been a good day Dad has been in a good mood !! Sometimes I think I am the only one going through this and I then I realise that I am not and there are some people that really do understand. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Christine I am so sorry for your loss I wish you a big hug xxxx

And Christine, Ann and Rb1 thank you for not making me feel like such an ogre.

I love this place I really could not cope without it xxxx