This is my first blog.
As some of you already know, I have a brain tumour, it was all removed in May but after biopsy turned out to be astrocytoma grade 3, and now I have started my radiotherapy, so far so good, feeling fine, although statistics say time is not on my side, but don’t worry MR tumour I will give you a fight or 2, or how many i can while i have the strengh.
But I have to be realistic because of the nature of the beast, and knowing that I would never forgive myself if i didn't do it.
So my problem is, I have 2 very young children and I would like, if or when the worst comes to worst to leave to my children something that they can use to remember their dad, and if possible a bit of guidance as well.
I was thinking cards for their birthdays, and some videos of me to be seen at different ages as well, so if there is anyone that have some tips or ideas would be greatly appreciated, don’t know if there is any shops for this type of things?
Even what I should talk about in the videos would be great to have some help, girls give me a hand...
Another thing any IT expert??? what's best to keep the videos will DVD still work in 15 years?
Thanks for your time and sorry for the spelling, but that was bad enough before the tumour :)
FormerMember
Hiya,
You have brought tears to my eyes! I know what you are saying and it has reminded me about a film I watched which also made me cry it was P.S I Love You. Life isnt fair, and you sound a fantastic dad how on earth could they foget you ever! I will have a good think and get back to you Ruth xx
You might want to check out this website www.winstonswish.org.uk/default.asp it offers practical advice about telling children, memory boxes and the like.
Oh, and Ruth, read the book, it is so so much better!!!
Check the site Marsha recommends Scat. I have put together memory boxes, with lots of things which belonged to my past, a photo album each of key moments and a DVD of all our family photos. I have also put some bits down in journals, odd things I have remembered, as I go along and mum's rules!
It can be hard to do but it can also be an incredible jog of the memory and something probably all parents should do as a matter of fact. I bought my own boxes and decorated them myself, so that they are individual but you can buy special boxes as well.
PM me if you want any more information, but believe me, they will never forget you.
