march 20th sat watching tele and feeling that niggle!

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Being made redundant at the end of December was a big deal. After all, I'm a careers adviser. What's that all  about? I should have given myself better advice that's what.

Then that day in January where we decided enough was enough and after 24 years together the show was over.  We had to put the house up for sale and get on with our lives. But wait, the girls aren't coming anywhere with me. No its my fault so that's that!

Sat watching tele on march 20th. Everyone in bed and not speaking to me. I feel a niggly bit of discomfort where my underwire is so I go to move my bra a bit...

I've taught breast and testicular cancer awareness in college to students.  Check check check!!!!! 

I won't check though. I mean, I'm so small the last thing I'll ever have is breast cancer. Nothing to check.....

So I went to move my bra and felt the lump immediately.

Hang on a minute though I bet I have the same lump in the other side just never noticed.

I used to teach this remember.

None in the other side.  Don't worry though I've been told breast cancer doesn't hurt. I'm too young and no family history.  Who shall I talk to? Late at night, no one speaking to me at home. Messaged my sister. She told me all of the above but made me promise to make an appointment at the docs the following day just to put my mind at rest.

The doctor referred me to the hospital for a diagnostic appointment. What's one of those?

Less than two weeks later I went for that appointment with my Mum. We went in to see the consultant and two student doctors and the consultant says.....

"I can tell this lady doesn't have cancer" student says "how", consultant says " because I'm good at my job, I can tell by the face!". 

Stunned awe in the room. Wow amazing man.

Went for my mammogram, then scan, then biopsy and then sat an hour waiting.

I knew.

My mum told me I'd miss my appointment if I went for a coffee when I told her I was going so I told the nurses I'd be back in a minute. They were so nice saying it wasn't a problem I wouldn't miss anything.

I knew

Came back with said coffee and called in immediately.

The consultant and students and bcn looked devastated.

I was right.

The consultant said "Katherine, I'm so sorry I got it wrong. You have grade one cancer and on and on"......

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Interesting post Katherines, especially the comment 'I knew'. I did too. I am a nurse and have been post breast cancer treatment for over 15yrs now. I was delayed for 5yrs back in 1990 when I first went to see my GP.  I was told the marble sized lump in my left breast was hormonal changes and not to worry. 

    I didnt worry.. that is the awful thing. I believed what I was told totally.  However, I eventually got the referral, diagnosis and treatment I should have had 5yrs previously. So, even though you have been knocked back right now .. at least you are on the right track. 

    As a nurse I am well aware how our sometimes, off the cuff remarks, can backfire on us.. I work in a bit trauma unit, so know that people listen very carefully to what is being said and can sometimes misinterpret words. I doubt your consultant will ever tell someone they are fine again, without the benefit of diagnostics. Might be worth having a chat with him though, so he knows how his words have impacted on you. 

    You were teaching students in college about self examination.. good for you!

    I hope your treatment goes well.... make sure you take someone with you to your appointments (I used to switch off and simply just not listen.. hence my best freind coming with me.. she listened extremely well!). Communicate with your family but dont become obsessive with the illness. Write stuff down, that way it is out of your head, but not forgotten and above all remember, enjoy yourself.. not reason not to even if you are on treatment. 

    Take care .. sent with love x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    apology to you, I have just seen all your other posts... LOL.. new to this blog stuff, should check more carefully in future.  x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Thank you for getting in touch. I loved writing the blog and have more trials and tribulations to come. I think my consultant understood the idiocy of his silly remarks which was why I got the apology. I hope he learnt his lesson. 

    I can't imagine what it must be like knowing you could have been through it all five years ago but you're getting there now thank goodness.

    Love and hugs xxx