I remember very vividly when I attended an RE class where a number of us giggled at the teacher - he said he was hurt by our behaviour. It wasn't until years later that I realised he was not telling us off for not believing in his god. We had tried to destroy his reality and identity.
Now, a cancer sufferer, where shades of reality are tinged every day in directions, and not always appreciated by people who don't understand, I try and tell thise doubting people that I am hurting, not just physically but psychologically.
If we keep calm and talk, we can make people see that they are hurting us without even realising it. And it need not take years to get there like it did with me.
What is your experience with family and friends?
