we carry on living but our loved ones are never forgotten

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FormerMember

29 Aug 2011

I lost my sister to cancer nearly 3 years ago. I still miss her loads and still have my down days sometimes too often :(

I still remember every single minute of her life when she was diagnosed with cancer. All the pain, tears and heartache my sister and family went through. I find it hard to remember the happiness we shared b4 this awful disease entered our lives. I want remember my sister's smile and laughter but instead all i feel and remember is the pain.

FormerMember over 13 years ago

Hi Poppy,

Hugs. I am wondering whether you would benefit from counselling - even if you did have some at the time.

My husband lost his 18 year old sister and had a load of traumatic things happen - and never received counselling. It affected his life terribly. He never felt he could discuss how he was feeling with family and bottled it up - and it would explode from so much pressure.

Since we married we have worked through this and he has found he can talk to me about his experiences and people have remarked that he is a changed man - far more relaxed. He still occasionally gets a quiet something is rumbling in the head day - but nothing like he used to - most people would not even guess he is a bit agitated. Outwardly he was a leader - inside he was a lost little boy.

I feel his life would have been so different if he had got the help needed at the time - but then perhaps we would never have met.

I hope you can work though it and then you will remember the good times .

Hugs xx
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FormerMember over 13 years ago

Hi poppy.I think Solent Lady is right.Counselling (even if you had it before) sounds like a good idea.It may help you to remember the good times.HUGS!!
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