Its all going down hill for my lovely paul. He is in the Hospice for pain controll and the doc has had a very frank talk with him about getting his affairs in order !!! I know he's going to die but it was such a smack in the face to actually hear a doctor say it could be days weeks or possibly months !!! His lung and bone cancer is swamping his body bless him . He has lost the use of his left hand and its creeping up his arm . What can i do to help him ?. I feel so useless and of course its me he is snappy with then is sorry later !!! I can't stand the thought of living without him . I know I've got to but its just like a nightmare .
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.,I am not in your postion yet but i wanted to send you soemthing, Does it help to imagine us ( on htis site) all holding your hand while you are holding pauls?
Remember all your happiest times .Lots of love sarah
Thanks so much for all your replies it does help to hear others advice and worries etc. They are still trying to get paul's pain under control .He does appear better as can now sit in a chair for a short while which is great. We actually sat in the hospice gardens on Saturday with our daughter and had a cup of tea in the sun. its been months since we have done that!!! Little pleasures are so important now as it brings a bit of normality back into our lives . I'm so glad we renewed our wedding vows 2 years ago .Its such a lovely memory. Apart from having my 3 children it was one of the best days of my life. All the people i love were there . It was very emotional but also great fun. i want my memory box to be so full when he goes that it will last me a life time
I am so glad you and Paul were able to sit in the sunshine, thats lovely, and that he was a bit better :) When my sister was in the hospice for symptom control they told me she would probably pass away within 3 months, then she developed puemonia and the Dr gave her 2 days...well she lived for another year after that..so they can`t always predicict these things Sue..Paul is still here and still fighting...I used to take comfort in that with my sister and it helped me to cope a little better.
