Can't believe it still

((((hugs)))))poppyanne. Its understandable you feel this way, 3 months is no time at all.As you probably know i havent lost a husband but have lost family..all I can say is that we go through all these awful feelings of grief and anger is one of them..when my sister passed away I felt anger like I had never felt before in my whole life, I was totally lost in grief.....Time does soften the pain and we just find a way through each day...but its so hard.

I wish I could help you tonight poppyanne, you sound so lost.

I tried to send you a message but it wouldn`t work I don`t know why.

Be kind to yourself its such early days, and this time of year is so hard for us who have been left behind.

((((gentle hugs))))

love scarlet xxxx

Oh Poppyanna my heart goes out to

you. You have every right to be angry,

losing the man you love is like someone tearing your heart out,and no

body can understand how that feels till they have been thru the heartbreak. You

are still grieving and its still such a short

time since you lost Paul, and i dont think

one ever gets over it, it just gets less

painful. Its great that you have people

that have been kind and are there for you,but its when your on your own the

misery of your loss creeps out, All i can

say to you is be kind to yourself, there,s

no right or wrong way to come to terms

with your loss, you cant stop your feelings, take one day at a time, things

will get better, and you will become a

little stronger each day, but its not easy.

Paul will always be with you in your heart,

and i know right now my saying all this to

you wont mean much at this time, but i

am thinking of you and if you want to talk

or rant and rave please pm me at anytime.

With Love Lucylee. xxxx

Thanks so much for taking the time to reply. Your kind words has helped . I will heed what you have both said and will get back on the site soon.

I find it difficult on the site because of all the other dear soles that are suffering like me

Have a happy christmas . Lots of love

Sue xxxxxxxx

hello poppyanne

you sound so desperate & there is very little i can say to make things easier .this is a very hard time to cope with because of all the happy times & memories .like you this is my first xmas without the one i love & it really is pretty horrible .you try to be cheerful for the children & especially for the grandchildren but it doesnt take much to get the eyes watering .i am just trying to focus on the fun times & get through as best as possible--im sure this time is a major hurdle .try to cope as best you can & im sure slowly things will be a little easier .

take very good care

grahame