Why are people so cruel?

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I know that we all go through different experiences. But I CANNOT get my head around how cruel and insensitive people are to those who have cancer. I'm not saying that everyone is cruel, BUT SOMETIMES, the people who you thought would be there to support and comfort are so bloody nasty.

My daughter has lost so many of her 'so called friends'. AND I'M sick of the excuses that they can't cope....DO THEY THINK SHE CAN?? She even received atext the other day saaying that they just wanted to get on with their lives....WELL I'M GLAD THEY GET THAT OPTION, as her life is going to be cut short!!!!!!!!

Two other so called friends came up to my other daughter and said they sorry they not been there for my daughter but could they come to her funeral!!!!

We've been in this nightmare for a year and 20 days...and it continues. I just don't feel like I can cope at the moment...I just want our normal life back...God I sound like Why us, Why us!!! No, I just want my daughter to be well..I want it to be me not her.

PEABS XXX

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Lets hope they never find themselves in the same situation, the time when you need all the support that you can get and your daughters so called friends say and do that, disgusting. I can't begin to know how you feel, all parents would rather have this than their children,I can't make you feel less pain than you do, but obviously you are a great mum wanting to make things right again, it isn't your fault this as happend, why it happens,I don't know love.....Take care, both of you....love Carol xx

  • Oh Peabs, how horrible. I have  just read your Profile and see that your poor daughter has really gone through the mill for the past year. Whilst it is no excuse for the behavior of her 'so-called' friends, my experience of teenagers (having them myself and teaching them) is that they are, on the whole, self-absorbed creatures who have yet to develop/learn compassion.  They may not understand how nasty they are being and could do with being handed a reality check. If you don't care what they think of you, why not tell them?

    Wishing you strength.

    KateG

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Peabs,

    They call themselves your daughter,s Friends well STUFF them who needs friends like that. When your Daughter has a Loving Caring Family,who are going through the Pain and agony.with her. What goes around comes around.!!!!!!

    Take care and be Safe My thoughts and love are with you and your Family at this trying time.

    Love Sarsfield.xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Peabs- you are doing so well. The people you describe are far lesser beings than your daughter.  Your daughter is ' her Mothers daughter '. Thats why she is the lovely, strong, caring girl she is. Sending you some strength and a hug. x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    hello peabs

    so glad youve posted - i sent you pm last week - hope you received it ok

    so sorry to hear about your daughters "friends" - but as kate says most teenagers are very self absorbed .... they dont mean to be they just are ! i think they will regret their actions later in life!

    wish i could make you feel better - i have a tiny inckling to what you are feeling - my heart goes out to you ......

    sending both you and your daughter lots of love

    (standing alongside you and holding your hand x)

    xNx