I was almost at the end of my radiotherapy sessions and feeling very confident about getting through this, in fact I was feeling slightly guilty that I had got off so lightly when I felt another lump in my neck. An ultra sound scan and biopsy reveal more melanoma in my lymph glands and the doctor has said as soon as possible I will have to have a lymph node dissection. My partner and I were so disappointed, but this was just before Christmas and we were determined to make it as normal and fun as possible for my young son, and for us too as it was the first Christmas he had not been working abroad. We had a lovely few weeks and he bought me the most wonderful, fun presents I've ever received, and we felt positive about our future.
He went back to work on the 29th December and on the morning of the 31st December I had a police officer standing in my kitchen telling me that he had collapsed on the oil rig and died on the way to the hospital....... he was just 39 years old.
I am now sitting in the heat of Dubai fighting with the authorities to permit an autopsy so that we can know why this happened before I bring him home to Norwich for his funeral.
I feel like God has completely abandoned me.......... what did I do to deserve this?
Paula M
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So so sorry to hear this. And of course you don't deserve one tenth of this. Sometimes really bad stuff just happens to good people.
Wishing you extra extra strength, to at least cope with it.
I am so sorry for your loss, you must be devastated. I wish you strength to get through this, both for yourself and your little boy. I will be thinking of you.
What an awful, terrible shock for you. I can't even begin to try to imagine how you are feeling and know that no words will help at this time. It just seems so unbelievably unfair what has happened to just one person. Keep fighting for your man and that adrenaline will help you through this. I'm just so sorry Paula.
Sending you a hug and lots of love and know that we are all behind you and thinking of you.
This is one of those times when words simply aren't enough. It is bad enough facing cancer treatment and that never ending roller coaster of emotions but to suddenly be faced with losing your partner, who has supported you so wonderfully through your treatment, without any warning is just simply dreadful. I am so, so sorry for your loss.
Please know that we are all thinking about you and will support you in any way we can. Being a mum you know your little boy needs you but you must also think of yourself. Let others help in any way they can. I hope you have friends and family close to you who are looking out for you. As a mum myself I wish I could wrap my arms around you and try to ease this pain you are suffering.
