I didn't get round to posting after j's first 3 month check up. The news was that his blood tests were good. How good and the ins and outs we don't know because we didn't ask, but the consultant had no concerns. He wasn't worried about j's cough and hoarseness either and said it sounded more like a virus than anything else. He said if j was still coughing 2 weeks later he'd arrange a chest X-ray.
so we're three weeks down the line now and unfortunately j is still coughing a bit but he hasn't done anything about it yet. It's not a really bad cough and I don't think he's worrying about it so I'm trying not to either.
Thing feel a bit weird at the moment in some ways j is really fit and well - we've climbed more mountains, decorated the kitchen and the living room and we've been feeling more like a normal family. He's a lot more active with his friends than he's been for years and that's a really nice thing to come out of it. But there are other issues too. He is struggling with full time work. The daily long drives plus all the training courses he's having to go on are making him shattered. Well I don't know if he's shattered because of work and the effects of the chemo or if it's something more sinister. He was complaining about sore hips the other day after a long drive and last night he had an upset stomach. It might have been to do with the sun and the cider but it might be something more. And that's what we've got to live with from now on I suppose. Maybe we'll never relax after all this even if he is fine.
Anyway he's finding work a slog and remembering all the things he hates about it and we are wondering of we could so things differently - maybe me work full time and him part time to make life a bit easier. We've even thought about having a move but I don't know if we'd dare, I guess normality and the devil you know can be comforting in these strange times. Will update at next check up if he makes if that long or before if not (I get the positive thinking gene from my mum you know...)
