The Beginning!

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FormerMember

20 May 2014

Welcome to My Journey of horror. This blog is about my journey in coping with a dying parent. I am completely new to this and have no idea what this blog will turn out to be. But I am sharing this journey for 2 main reasons. I would love to gain support fro people who are gong through what I am and can relate and understand but also so people can read this blog and know they are not alone either.

Firstly let me introduce myself. My name is Lorna I am 28 years old and currently a working student on my way to hopefully getting my nursing degree.

Just over a month ago Myself and my dad got the Horrific news that my dad had bowel & lung cancer. It has been a long month and I am exhausted and numb at this point. The very popular statement you never think to will happen to you or someone you love is even more true to me now as I never did.

We have recently been told that his cancer is stage 3 and aggressive. I am always trying to make my dad think positively and give him hope and ecouragement.Like any one would do for there loved one.

I myself have been going though many emotions. I feel lost I dont know where to turn. am unsure of what I am supposed to do if anything? and am in a state of numbness at the moment not quite sre how to feel.

My dad has been through the wars already health wise and I feel stupid and selfish for feeling that I am needing support.He is the one gong through this surly he needs support more than me?

I am now at the point however where I am trying to juggle studies, work and Looking after my dad. I guess felt that this blog would benefit me and also other people in letting them know they are not alone.

FormerMember over 10 years ago

Hi lorna I totally know how u feel I myself is 26 and when I was 18 I got diagnosed 2 days before Christmas. Which was a total shock to me and my family. When I got told the news I also felt numb. I got diagnosed with Hodgkin's lymphoma. I'm in remission now but I'm still coming to terms with it all and what gapped to me. My dads dad got stomach cancer and died as a result from that in 2003 and I thought to myself I hope and pray to god that I don't end up with anything but how wrong I was. Anyways I'm here if u ever want to talk to me xx take care xx
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FormerMember over 10 years ago

Hi Ces thankyou for your comment it is great to know people are there to talk to.I am also sorry to hear what you have been through but I am so happy to hear you are in remission. My grandfather also died of lung cancer it terrifies me that my dad now has it and i think to myself does this mean this s what is in my future. I am here for you too anytime xx
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FormerMember over 10 years ago

We'll as my dad says crap happens which it does. Not only did I have the big c for 3 years to deal with I also had to deal with disability spinabifida and hydrocephalus so it was a double wammy to deal with. So no wonder I amsuffering from depression now I hav my bad days but I do hav good ones as well it's not all doom and gloom take care xx
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FormerMember over 10 years ago

im really sorry to hear about your situation, my love goes out to you. i was 15 when i i found out my father had lung cancer. it was begining of december when i found out and i remember the numbness that crept over me. i found it so hard to concentrate on my studies and remain sane enough and be the tough daughter that wanted to help him anyway i could. he went in to hospital the week before christmas and during the operation to remove the affected lung, that they found it had spread to his diaphram. they removed the affected area andhe was healing but one complication after another ment he suffered a huge heart attack due to the stress on his body to the point where he was on life support with no hope of recovery. we decided as a family with my fathers wishes of not wanting to suffer if any complications arose, we decided to turn of life support on december 21st. it wasnt definitly not the easiest of times, i felt lost, confused, angry, and so alone in my situation. 10 years ago there was no where like this forum for me to talk to anyone. you are most deffinitly not the only one in your situation.
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FormerMember over 10 years ago

Lorna I'm so sorry you are going through this terrible nightmare. My husband is dying of cancer and our sons of 20, 25 & 28 are also having to come to terms with this in their own way. The strain is considerable so it is important that you take care of yourself too. There are so many emotions that rattle around us by the hour it's difficult to convey in words what a grim time this is. Keep life as uncomplicated as possible and try to see value in each day with your dad. Of course you don't know what to do...................... there is no handbook for this to refer to. You are caring and bright, put your trust in yourself to do the right thing. I have no doubt your dad will have lots of faith in you to be there for him. You will draw strength from one another as the weeks progress but support is never far away if things pile up on you. Much love x x x
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